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I want to get back together with my girlfriend and I'm in love with her! I have decided.
I haven't contacted her for a long time, but the other day I contacted her to wish her a happy birthday.
Then, when I looked at her Twitter, I was shocked to see that she was saying things like "scary" and it seemed like it was about me.
I was really shocked, and even though I had already made up my mind about her, when I saw it, I suddenly changed my mind.
I looked at my ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend's Twitter.
The subconscious mind says, “Because I think so, it will happen.”
So, if you want to get back together, decide what you want to achieve beyond getting back together, and just be yourself. And I am telling you to enjoy the happiness that is right in front of you.
However, even if you have stopped contacting your boyfriend or girlfriend directly, some people still end up looking at his public SNS to see if he has a new girlfriend and if he is having fun. it seems like.
Among the various SNS, Twitter has a small number of characters, so you may end up tweeting just one word impulsively.
It's completely understandable that when you see that, you reflexively think, "Wow, this is about me!"
The subconscious mind only says, ``Because I think so, it will happen'', so as long as I can decide and be the person I want to be, it doesn't matter whether I look at SNS or contact someone.
But do you know that the moment you react to a word on Twitter, your thoughts go somewhere else and you are being swayed by the ``outside'' of ``reality, boyfriend and girlfriend''?
Once you've made up your mind, there's nothing left to do!
Once you've made up your mind, you've already become the version of yourself who has achieved it. That's the end of it.
What I always emphasize is not setting your decided "desire" as something like "getting a message" or "reconnecting" right in front of you.
You can do that if you want, but I think it might lead to a more circuitous route. I recommend deciding what you want in the long run. The process of becoming lovey-dovey with him should be left entirely to your subconscious, and you should decide how you want things to be in the further future.
Once you've decided, from that moment, become the version of yourself who has already achieved it and stay that way, being in a loving relationship with him.
"Thinking that way" doesn't mean obsessively thinking about him all day like a mantra. It's simply deciding and, just like deciding to drink water and then immediately drinking it, becoming the version of yourself who has already achieved it "now."
So, from now on, enjoy each day as if you are already in a loving relationship with him.
However, if you've been accustomed to being the "I desperately want to reconcile with him" person, you might find it hard to break away. You may keep checking his Twitter or Instagram every day, looking for signs of a new girlfriend, and getting anxious when he doesn't send you messages.
This rollercoaster of intense emotions, with excitement when a message arrives and disappointment when it doesn't, becomes your daily life.
But you don't need to do any of that.
However, if it suddenly disappears... well, then you're left with a lot of free time. So much free time that you have nothing to do, and you find yourself checking on him again.
Then, before you know it, you've gone from the "I've achieved it" state back to the "I want to reconcile" state. And then, you realize, "Oh no," and try to return to the "I've achieved it" state.
If you can quickly return to the "I've achieved it" state, that's fine.
However, as in the case of the person who asked this question, if you find something that seems to be related to you or discover signs of a new boyfriend or girlfriend, your ego may go into overdrive, and you may not be able to return to the state of your desire for a while.
Even in your current state, reconciliation might still be possible, but even if you reconcile, it doesn't mean you'll always be with him.
And if you constantly worry and think about him when there's no contact, that kind of love can be a bit exhausting, in my personal opinion.
Since you've already broken up, I would like you to make the most of this "free time" and enjoy your solo time without pressure.
You can check your ex-boyfriend's or ex-girlfriend's social media if you want, but you don't have to.
I'm also someone who likes to check SNS, so I completely understand the feeling of wanting to check it out, but I'll say this out loud, but it's not 100% good to check it.
Because I'm looking for something bad. Because I take everything as bad no matter what, I'm sure that I'll find something bad.
Rather than that, I just want her to be in love with her inner boyfriend and cherish the happiness in front of her and the friends in front of her.
If you feel like your hobby has become your boyfriend, this is a great opportunity to find something else you can be passionate about ^^
If you can enjoy your time in this way, I think you'll be able to have a better relationship even after you get back together.
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