This series is about LoveSync Attraction
From the questions we receive from our blog readers and YouTube viewers, we will select and answer the questions that we think will be helpful to many people. (The content of the question has been changed as appropriate to the extent that individuals are not identified).
Hello, this is Iruru.
I think there are many people at LoveSync Attraction who want to get back together, such as those who wanted to get back together but found someone they are interested in, or who started dating a new boyfriend but are still curious about their ex-boyfriend. We have received many inquiries about this.
Have you ever thought you were happy with your current boyfriend, but when you happen to have an interaction with your ex-boyfriend, you find yourself thinking, ``Maybe I really like this person after all?''
In such a case, how should we set our subconscious ``thoughts''?
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I wanted to get back together, but I found a new boyfriend and we were having fun every day, but the other day I exchanged messages with my ex-boyfriend and I thought, ``Maybe this is the person who understands me after all.'' I felt like, ``I can't do it.''
I want to cherish the guy I'm currently dating, but compared to my ex-boyfriend, maybe he's better. He feels strongly that he has to do one or the other.
Is it okay for me to continue dating and wait for things to progress with my ex-boyfriend?
After all, your ex-boyfriend is wonderful!
Even if you are dating someone wonderful now, your ex-boyfriend is someone you loved for a while.
Whatever the reason for the breakup, you may still think, "My ex-boyfriend is still a wonderful person!" You know that there are times when you think, "I knew he was a wonderful person!
If you feel, in your interactions with your ex-boyfriend, that "he/she understands me after all," you will be very happy. When you think about subconscious wish fulfillment, if you want to break up with your current boyfriend and go back to your ex-boyfriend, you can set it up so that things are already going well with your ex-boyfriend, or you can choose to go out with both of them if you want, since there is no rule that says you cannot be two-timed.
However, when I read your consultation, it seemed to me that you have not yet decided for yourself whether you want to go back to your current boyfriend or your ex-boyfriend, and you have not given a clear answer.
Can't you decide if you want him now or my ex-boyfriend?
Desires come true in your subconscious because you think so.
You think you are in love with him, so you are in love with him.
Simply decide on the thought you want to have come true.
And then just be the way you are that makes it come true.
But
・I can't decide to get back together with my ex-boyfriend who I don't know if it will work out, even though my current relationship with him is going well.
・On the other hand, even if I had decided to break up with him and get back together with my ex-boyfriend, I would still think, "Maybe my ex-boyfriend isn't good enough after all?" I can't think clearly that I want to get back together with my ex-boyfriend.
In this way, unless you are clear about what you really want to do and who you really like, you won't be able to clearly decide who you want to be in love with.
Look inside yourself to see how you want to be
Your current boyfriend or your ex-boyfriend...both are great, but you can't decide which one you like better.
Personally, I think it's okay to have such a "period of hesitation" or "period of being unable to decide".
Or rather, when you can't decide, you can't force yourself to decide even if you want to, so I think it means you need time. I think the only way to decide is to let it go until you can clearly say, "This is the way it is.
And until that is decided, I think it would be good to put aside who the "other party" is and simply ask, "What do I want to be?" I think it is a good idea to try to keep this in mind.
For example,
・I am the one who is doted on by him and am truly happy every day.
・We are a wonderful couple who care for each other and value our time together.
・I travel with him, go out for drinks with friends, and enjoy my daily life.
・I am working hard, enjoying my love life, and shining.
Even if it is not clear who the "other party" is, I think it is possible to decide how you should be when you are fulfilled. If you can decide how you are when you are fulfilled, I think you can leave the rest to other forces.
Only you know your own thoughts.
I myself went through a period where I lied to myself so much that I didn't know what I wanted to be, so I completely understand the feeling of not knowing what I want to do.
I don't know, I don't know what I want to do, but while I'm just leaving things as they are, the thought of ``Maybe this is what I want to do'' comes to me, and when I'm feeling confused, I just write my thoughts down in a notebook. I started writing things down.
Only you know what you want to do. I can't answer that question even if you use the inquiry form, so I think you have no choice but to ask it yourself.
And even if you don't really know what you want to do right now, I think that as you face your inner self, you will naturally come to understand it. I want to enjoy each day and take care of myself without worrying about it.
