Hello. This is Iruru.
I subconsciously wanted to get back together, so I came across Houme♡Ren, watched a lot of videos, and it was good! We'll get back together! So, I decided to be in love with him.
Then, before I knew it, I was in love with him! Yay, we got back together! !
And after that. You might think that once you get back together, it's over, but that's not the case.
If you get back together, you should live a lovey-dovey life with him. However…
Ego is the strongest after getting back together
After we got back together, my “ex-boyfriend” finally became my “current boyfriend”! The joy is short-lived.
This is a personal experience, but in Iruru's case, her ego after getting back together and dating was amazing.
Before we started dating, or when we were trying our best to get back together, our egos were pretty amazing, but now, after getting back together, I wonder if their egos are the strongest.
What's amazing about it is that it feels very believable.
Even though it's an ego, it feels like it's not an ego, and you become one with it without even realizing it's an ego.
What kind of ego comes out...
A highly believable (or so it seems) ego comes out a lot.
"Wait, why is he so obsessed with his phone today? Oh no!!!
I think I saw a girl's face as his profile picture! Is he talking to another girl?! Even though he's with me?!"
"Hmm, tomorrow was supposed to be our date, but he hasn't contacted me at all. Did he forget? He knows I wanted to reconcile, so is he not taking it seriously?"
"When we first got back together, we were so lovey-dovey, but lately, it's just been staying at home, and there's no sign of going out anywhere.
He says he likes me, but maybe he's just feeling lonely after breaking up with his ex..."
"Whoa, he canceled today's date!
I was really looking forward to it... Wait, this kind of cancellation seems familiar...
Oh, right, back when he was cheating, he used to cancel plans like this all the time!!! Could it be that he's using work as an excuse to be with someone else?"
How does it sound? Do you think it's relatable? 😄
Even after getting back together, getting married, or being in a loving relationship, does the ego still come into play?
That's right. Even if you get back together, get married, or are in love, your ego will come out.
Now, I can't stop it. Immediately after getting back together, he's by my side, so if you observe him, you'll see that he's really an ego monster, and he keeps showing off his ego like that.
Then, I end up thinking, ``Maybe so?'' and it becomes one.
Iruru has had the experience many times of getting back together, only to destroy it himself. So how do I stop it?
That being said, it's different for each person, so I hope you can find your own way to deal with it, but since you can't stop your ego, personally, I think it's best to focus on yourself rather than him. Masu.
My feeling is that since I've been able to focus on myself, I've been able to focus on the ``now'' when I spend time with him.
And I feel like we are now able to enjoy each other's time without having to restrict each other in a strange way.
Myself more than him
Take care of yourself whether he is in front of you or not.
What you do is the same before you get back together and after you get back together.
But Iruru throws away her ego and focuses on herself, and they finally get back together! ! However, as soon as we got back together, it wasn't based on me anymore, it was based on him again. It had gone back to normal.
People who tend to fall into an endless loop of him, him, him, break up, be me, me, me, get back together, and then become him, him, him, etc., start by getting into the habit of throwing away their ego.
I also want them to focus on themselves and enjoy their daily happiness.
That's really the same happiness you'll feel after getting back together!
Rather than worrying too much about his words and actions, I think it would be better for you to focus on yourself first from now on, so that you both can have a comfortable and enjoyable relationship even after you get back together ♡
If you're still having trouble thinking about things, you might be able to clear your head by cleaning or decluttering your belongings.
