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From M
I want to get back together with my ex-boyfriend. But sometimes I keep thinking about past events, such as the fight we had when we broke up, and even though I love him, I'm not sure if I want to get back together.
Whether you want to reconcile or not? You are not sure about my feelings.
We have received multiple consultations from people who say they want to get back together, but they keep thinking back to unpleasant events such as past fights, and are worried whether things will go well or are unsure whether they want to get back together.
It would be fine if their thoughts were always clear, but as you mentioned, it seems that some people get in the way of past events or their egos, making it difficult to understand what their thoughts are.
I thought I had made up my mind, but somehow it doesn't seem right? Is this really okay? I used to have a lot of trouble with this, and I still have it sometimes, so I completely understand how you feel.
Desires come true in the subconscious mind: ``Because I think so, it will happen.''
Once you decide on your thoughts, start being the person you want to be. That's all.
Do you want to get back together and be in love, or do you want to be in love with someone other than him who is nicer than him?
Only you know your true feelings.
Only you can decide your thoughts.
And regarding the above question, as long as you have made up your mind, it doesn't matter what happened in your past.
All you have to do is decide on your thoughts and be yourself as those thoughts come true.
But when you feel like your thoughts aren't clear, it might be a good idea to listen to your heart and ask, ``What do I really want to do?'' At times like this, I reconsider my ``thoughts.''
Try expressing your feelings.
It's okay to decide your thoughts as long as you make them in your heart, but if you try to output them in various ways, you'll realize many different things.
Wite on the notebook
The best thing I do when I'm feeling hazy is write in my notebook.
Anyway, it's like everyone tries to write down the words that are spinning around in their heads on paper.
For example, if you want to get back together but can't decide whether you want to get back together, simply write down why you feel that way.
・I loved you, but we broke up. I want to get back together, but I'm not sure if things will work out again
・We broke up because of cheating. I would hate it if you cheated on me again.
・Does it really work at long distances?
・I'm worried if I can't contact you again
etc…
And I feel like I can look at myself a little more objectively by writing it down in a notebook and reading it, rather than just thinking about it in my head.
For example, in the example above, you might realize, "Huh? This is just me feeling anxious even though it hasn't happened yet."
Then it's all ego. So, immediately throw it away.
I think I can be myself with a clear mind.
Create a vision map
For those who prefer images rather than words, we recommend creating a vision map.
A vision map is a collection of photos that remind you of what you want to achieve, and you can paste them on drawing paper, on a corkboard, or create a wallpaper using a photo app on your phone. It's like a scrapbook made by doing things like this.
When I see something that I had imagined in my head in the form of an actual image, I feel like my criteria for judgment becomes clear: ``Huh? This isn't it.'' ``This is good.'' I will.
For a while, I created a vision map every 3 months or so by pasting cutouts on drawing paper to help me understand what I wanted to do and how I wanted to be. What should I do to make you happy? There was a time when I asked myself this question.
At first, I worked hard to create a vision map that just didn't quite make sense, but little by little it started to become a better fit, and I had a lot of fun creating it. It was fun to find beautiful photos, and I recommend it to those who like detailed work.
If “getting back together with him” doesn’t make sense to you, blurt out the other person.
``I want to get back together with him, but I just can't imagine it working out with him.''
"I don't even know if I want to get back together with him."
In that case, we recommend that you try blurring out the ``other'' person for a while.
For example, in ``I'm happy and in love with ◯◯-kun!'', I blur out the ``◯◯-kun'' part and say something like ``I'm married to a husband who loves me very much, and everyone is in love and happy.'' .
Please try to find the ``thought'' that feels best to you.
I mostly created vision maps on my own, but if you think it would be easier to create if there were detailed rules, please try making one using the books below as a reference ♡
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