Hello, I'm Iruru.
Honestry, I myself have a very nebgative impression about reconciliation love and I used to think, "After a breakup, I should move on to the next person as quickly as possible. Dating the same person again will just lead to another breakup!"
Since we broke up once, won't we just end up separating again for the same reasons if we reconcile?
Some of our readers may have felt worried, saying, ``I want to get back together, but we broke up even though we were in love at first, so even if we get back together, things might end up bad again.
Is it not? Also, some people may actually break up and get back together again and again.
I used to think that way, but now I think, ``If you face yourself and become the person you are in love with him and get back together, even if it's the same person, your relationship will be completely different, and after getting back together, I think it will go well.”
I think this leads to the idea that even if you date a different person, if your mindset remains the same, you may end up breaking up in the same way over and over again.
I only dated people who were similar to me.
As I've mentioned in my profile, I used to have extremely low self-esteem, and for some reason, I repeatedly ended up dating men who were already in relationships.
I'm always second.
Or, she won't be recognized as a "girlfriend" properly.
Then, she gradually gets tired of the lack of improvement in her relationship, and even though she loves her, she thinks that she can't be with him anymore, so she breaks up with him. And next time!
Even if I thought about it, I ended up dating someone who wouldn't accept me as his girlfriend.
At that time, I thought, "We broke up. Let's forget about it. Next, next!" In order to forget the pain of heartbreak, I didn't wallow in the pain and immediately looked for another love.
I think finding a new love is a quick way to forget the pain of a broken heart, and that's what I did, but looking back now, I probably should have taken a little more time to introspect.
I think so. Because I was looking for the next love while still being the same person who didn't have success in love, I ended up repeating similar relationships without changing my ``me who doesn't go well in love.''
What matters most is not the other person but one's own inner self.
Even if you enter a new relationship, if your inner self remains in a state of turmoil, there's a risk that when your ego takes over at some point, those murky emotions might not only affect your current partner but also transfer negative feelings from your past relationship.
In the realm of the subconscious, desire realization is rooted in the belief that "I think this way, so it will happen."
If you believe you can be loving and loved by your current partner, that belief itself is what remains constant, whether you're starting a new relationship or considering reconciling with your ex.
Initially, you might have a loving intention, but if you let ego-driven thoughts creep in, like "Oh, he's taking a bit longer to reply; maybe he doesn't really like me?" when he's slow to respond, or "No messages after our date; was it boring?
Will there be another date?" when there's no post-date communication, you start losing confidence in yourself. If you allow your thoughts to spiral in this ego-driven manner and think, "Maybe this relationship won't work out after all," it can hinder even a new relationship from thriving.
Just by changing your inner self, the way you see will change.
Desires come true in your subconscious because you think so.。
If you want to have a loving relationship with him, decide right now to be the version of yourself who is in a loving relationship with him. And make the unwavering decision not to doubt it.
Whether it's reconciling with him or starting a new romance, this principle remains the same.
When you are the fulfilled and loving version of yourself, consider how you would react calmly, for instance, to the fact that "he hasn't sent a message after the date."
If you were in the state of being fulfilled and in love, you might think, "If he hasn't messaged, maybe I'll send him a message."
You might even find it endearing, thinking, "He must have worked too hard for me today." When you've decided not to doubt that he loves you, doesn't the same fact look different?
By being in the state of fulfillment and love, not only will your post-reconciliation and post-new relationship experiences change, but they'll also look entirely different from your past relationship.
Once you achieve this state, success is yours. Whether it's reconciling or starting a new romance, you're sure to excel in your next relationship!
