【081】Separated by Paranoia, Reunited with Her Ex 1.5 Years Later | The Story of S, Who Changed “Believing in Others” to “Believing in Myself” Through the Subconscious Mind

“I love him, but I’m not happy.”

Are you in a relationship like that?

When there’s no contact, you anxiously check your phone. You monitor his SNS. You doubt him, test him——. That aching feeling that comes precisely because you love him.

S, whom we’re introducing today, was in exactly that situation. But 1.5 years later, everything had changed completely.

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S’s Situation: Friends for 1.5 Years, Then Dating—But Never Happy

S is a woman in her 20s. In 2021, she met her boyfriend through a group introduced by a coworker, and after 1.5 years of friendship, they began dating.

But from the moment they started dating, she felt no happiness at all.

Her boyfriend was the type who was popular with everyone. He frequently went to group gatherings with mixed-gender friend groups, and S was constantly anxious. She secretly checked his LINE messages, monitored his close female friend’s Instagram, and every time she found out he was meeting his ex, she felt like she was “falling apart.” As a result, she began treating him coldly as if testing him, looked at him with suspicion, and came to hate herself. In April 2023, she chose to break up.

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After the Breakup: Realizing “My Happiness Was Dependent on Him”

After the breakup, S cried every day and developed trust issues with people. But in the midst of this, she realized something.

“My happiness was dependent on him.”

This became a major turning point for S.

In subconscious mind manifestation for love, there’s a concept called “deciding your thought.” It’s as simple as deciding a thought within yourself—like “being lovey-dovey with him.” That’s all you need to do.

But before that, S had a fundamental issue: “My happiness wasn’t rooted in myself, but in him.” She would be happy or unhappy depending on his actions. That was the true source of her suffering.

Realizing this, S made a decision: “Instead of trusting him, I’m going to trust myself. I can do that, and I want to.”

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“Ego” and “Thought”: The Subconscious Mind Approach to Love Manifestation

Let us explain ほめ♡レン’s approach here.

Thought: The core decision you make for yourself—like “being lovey-dovey with him” or “getting back together.” You simply decide this.

Ego: The semi-automatic reactions to events—like “No contact means it’s over” or “He has a girlfriend means it’s finished.” These come from past experiences and common sense, not your true thought.

When her ego appeared, S handled it this way: “I imagined myself in a bird’s-eye view of a successful version of myself, observing small events from that perspective.”

She kept her successful self as the baseline and simply observed her wavering feelings. This was S’s way of handling her ego.

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He Got a Girlfriend Midway. Here’s Why She Didn’t Waver

Midway through pursuing reconciliation, her ex got a girlfriend.

The emotional upheaval was, as S says, “abnormally bad.” But she “gently doubted whether that was truly the real truth, then decided it wasn’t a problem for the reconciliation.”

Because she had decided that her relationship with him was “unshakeable,” she could treat his girlfriend as “nonexistent.”

That girlfriend broke up with him after 3 months.

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She Did What She Wanted: A Cat, a Career Change, Time With Friends

During this period, S generously did everything she wanted.

• She got her beloved cat
• She switched to a job she was passionate about
• She frequently spent time with old friends she used to be close with
• She generously gave herself the things she wanted to eat and buy

As a result, her ex gradually transformed from being “the only one” to “one of the elements that color my life.” He remained important, but he was no longer her entire source of happiness.

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Every Night She Imagined It—And It Really Happened by the Seaside

Summer 2024: Her ex showed up at a barbecue with their friend group.

S had actually been imagining every night as she fell asleep: “It would be nice if we confessed our love to each other by the sea and got back together.” “When I got into bed, it was like, okay, let me enjoy that scene, feeling excited,” she says.

That night, the two naturally left the group. When they arrived at the nearby seaside——the exact scene she’d been imagining spread out before her eyes.

They told each other “I love you” and got back together.

Now, her boyfriend had transformed into a doting boyfriend. He sends her follow-up messages. He asks “When are you free next?” He’d been carefully keeping the couple’s rings they’d made while dating.

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S’s Message: When “Offense” and “Defense” Get Flipped

S shared this message with viewers:

“You might feel anxious when you’re not doing anything, but I think sitting in your thought and floating around is actually a very aggressive stance. It seems to me that looking at reality, falling into despair, or taking anxious action is more defensive.”

“Offense” and “defense” have completely flipped.

Taking anxious action isn’t offense.
Deciding your thought and floating around—that was the real “offense.”

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Summary: “Believing in Yourself” Was the Starting Point

The core of S’s reconciliation is one thing: switching from “trusting him” to “trusting myself.”

When you can’t stop caring about his actions, it might not be about him—it might be about the foundation of your own thought. When you’re worried about whether your happiness is dependent on him, ask yourself once: Is my happiness rooted in him?

For the full details of S’s manifestation success story, please watch the video. It’s truly compelling—from the emotional turmoil when he got a girlfriend to the moment she remained unshaken by it all.

📺 Reconciliation Success Report After 1.5 Years ❤ Separated by Paranoia. She Got a Cat, Changed Jobs, Did What She Wanted—And When He Got a Girlfriend, He Transformed Into a Doting Boyfriend. They Reunited After 1.5 Years!