You Don’t Need to Change vs. You Must Change – Which Is It?

Hello, this is Meguru.

I had set up an official Twitter account to commemorate the release of various authors’ new books, and while interacting with my followers, I realized that

many people find themselves getting stuck at certain points.

Here are some questions that come to mind right now:

○ Why do some people make it come true and others don’t?
○ You should take action. You don’t need to act. Which one!
○ Even if you stay attached, it will come true. It won’t come true if you’re attached. Which one!
What does it mean to be “just the way you are”? I want to change who I am now, so it’s my subconscious mind!
○ Isn’t it just sophistry that it will come true even if it’s negative?
○ I just want to get back together with him, so why are you making me go around saying “I love myself” (angry)

These are just some examples.

I felt like people were often confused in the flood of information, thinking, “Is it A? Is it B? Which one is it?”

This time, I want to address one of these questions:

What does it mean to be “just the way you are”? I want to change who I am now, so it’s my subconscious mind!

Let me tell you about this.

There’s no way I’m okay with who I am now, so my subconscious mind

You know, Meguru used to feel a surge of anger boiling over every time a blog, Twitter post, or author told her, “You’re fine just the way you are.”

I thought:

I don’t like the way I am now, so I’m just reading suspicious subconscious mind and spiritual stuff! (screaming)

There’s no way I’m okay with who I am now, so it’s just my subconscious.

Meguru once lost contact with someone after only a month, and at that time, she felt like she was falling into the abyss.

Things were getting crazy, and I fled to Kyoto for about a month.

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I knew it wasn’t okay to be like this.
(I don’t mean because it bothers other people, but because it doesn’t make me feel comfortable)
Even when things were raging, I somehow understood

that something was different.

Taking it out on my parents.
Screaming at my friends.

I thought, “There’s something different about that.”

For some people, this might include:

Seeing a counselor
Rushing to fortune tellers
Running to buy power stones
Desperate eating, desperate drinking

etc., but is it okay to rely on them?

But what can I say in one word?

Isn’t that missing the fundamental solution?

That’s what I thought.

 

But I knew something was different, but I didn’t know what exactly was different.

That’s why I turned to the subconscious.
I have to change it.
I’m so unattractive that he loses contact with me, so I have to become more attractive. (*This doesn’t mean that anyone who’s lost contact right now is unattractive, okay? It just means that Meguru had assumed that.)
While I was thinking this,

It’s okay to be who you are now.

“That’s why I don’t like the way I am now!!!”

I let out a roar that sounded like a scream.

Just being able to have that “experience” is highly praised

Then, one day, something happened that made me think, “Is it okay to be who I am now?”

It happened when I was talking with a self-help book author.
We were talking about love, and

 

[chat face=”cats777993-1-e1621414988553.png” name=”Meguru” align=”left” border=”red” bg=”none”] How can people who have hit rock bottom get back up after being treated badly by someone else? (←Me at the time) [/chat]

When I asked this, he said one word.

[chat face=”man3″ name=”author” align=”right” border=”yellow” bg=”none”]Amazing! ! ! (Highest level of praise) [/chat]

[chat face=”Cats777993-1-e1621414988553.png” name=”Meguru” align=”left” border=”red” bg=”none”]…Huh? …Where? What? [/chat]

[chat face=”man3″ name=”author” align=”right” border=”yellow” bg=”none”]

You had that experience. This is amazing on a soul level! The reason we go out of our way to materialize and live as humans is to have “experience.” That’s it. It’s only humans who judge that “experience” by saying “this is good” or “this is bad.” Essentially, there is no such thing as good or bad.[/chat]

Then, the next day, it felt like another hammer flew at me from the same direction, and for some reason I was shocked and said, “Wow!”

Experience… huh?

Certainly, from him, both

being told something nice,
and
having something terrible done to me,
are still “experiences.”

If you look only at “experience,” both should be of “equal value.”

Losing contact with him
and
Him calling me every day and being in love

both have “equal value” in the sense of “experience.”

Is that so.
Is “losing contact” an “experience”?

If you look at it from the perspective of “I’ve experienced it,” everything may be wonderful in a sense.

…There’s no way I would wake up that suddenly lol

But, little by little, “no matter what, it’s experience” was being input, and then one day, suddenly…

That made sense to me, and I realized I had been thinking that I had to change, that I had to change.

You’re fine just the way you are, okay?

That’s what I started to think.

To put it elegantly, I think that

I started to focus on “the irreplaceable existence of myself here” instead of “somewhere other than here.”

There’s a story about two children who went on a journey to find the bluebird of happiness, but the conclusion is the same – the bluebird was inside their house all along.

Whip yourself in moderation

If you’re thinking, “I don’t like the way I am now!”, that’s perfectly fine.

After all, this can also be seen as “aspiring to improve,” right?
Because I think it’s wonderful to think, “I want to grow more.”

However, if you find yourself getting tired of searching for “somewhere other than here,” maybe it’s okay to stop for a moment. I think so.

When you feel like you’ve suffered some sort of damage, such as heartbreak, loss of contact, or a relationship that doesn’t go well, it’s hard to beat yourself up and demand further growth. (I often put a lid on it so that it doesn’t feel as exhausting as when I’m whipping myself.)

Like past Meguru, some people may mistakenly believe that “I’m so unattractive that they lose contact with me” and push themselves even harder.

Unless you have a really tough mentality and are motivated by adversity, it’s better to accept your current state and say, “Right now, I don’t think things are going to go well, and that’s okay with me.” You can feel more at ease with who you are here right now. Don’t you think? I believe so.

“I am so miraculous that I can create things I don’t want” is also the strongest

♡Meguru♡