Grasp, then release. Or, forgive.

Hello, this is Meguru.

Let’s apply the subconscious law of “what you think becomes reality” to love.

“You decide you’re in love with him, so you are in love with him.”
Choose your thoughts. Everything else just falls into place naturally.

If you’ve been reading this blog, you’ve heard this concept countless times. It’s probably starting to feel like a broken record.

But you’re still worried about what’s actually happening in your life.

So many of you feel this way.

Instead of focusing on your “thoughts” about being in love with him, the “reality” of him being distant or cold feels more real and carries more weight.

Like this:

He hasn’t texted me back and seems so distant.
He’s dating someone new and I feel like it’s over.

You’re gripping onto that reality so tightly, refusing to let it go.
From your perspective, it feels like something that absolutely matters.
That’s why you can’t release it.

“How can I act like this doesn’t matter? I want him back – this is about him!”

I get why you’d think this, but it’s actually one of the biggest misconceptions out there.

He doesn’t matter. Reality doesn’t matter.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t care about him.

Even here on this blog, it’s because you care about him, because you want him back, that I keep encouraging you to decide on your future together.

But the current reality? That doesn’t matter.

Because that reality is:

 

He hasn’t texted me back and seems so distant.

Doesn’t it seem a little weird that something like this feels so incredibly important?

But by clinging to it and refusing to let go,
you’ve convinced yourself it’s so crucial that you simply cannot release it.

It doesn’t matter, so just let it go.

If you can’t let go, choose forgiveness instead.

That said, you can’t let it go.
You understand this logically, but you still can’t release it.

If this sounds like you, try forgiveness instead.

I’ll forgive you for all of it.

“I can’t forgive myself.”
You don’t have to forgive yourself.

I’ll forgive even what you can’t forgive about yourself.

What happens then?

It becomes so much easier to return to those “feelings for him” that matter most to you.

When you embrace forgiveness, you realize it’s perfectly okay to be exactly who you are.

Of course, your love for him is part of who you are – like “I’m in love with him and that makes me happy.”
But your truest self gets buried under all this noise:

He hasn’t texted me back and seems so distant.
He’s dating someone new and I feel like it’s over.

What a waste to let all that surface-level reality cover up who you really are.
That’s why:

Forgive what you can’t let go of.
Even if you struggle to forgive, forgive anyway.

Keep doing this.

When you keep choosing forgiveness, those unforgivable things start to fade away.
It’s like giving yourself positive affirmations.
You begin to realize, “Maybe I’m okay just as I am.”

Reality that doesn’t serve you simply doesn’t matter.
If you can let it go, let it go.
If you can’t let go, forgive yourself for not being able to let go.

You have everything to gain from this approach, and absolutely nothing to lose.

Here’s a book about the amazing Ho’oponopono method – a miraculous technique that helps anyone solve problems quickly and easily by simply repeating: “Thank you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you.” I love recommending this because you can practice it anywhere, anytime with just these four phrases! ^^