How the “Let’s Just Be Stupid” Strategy Transformed a Desperate Breakup After 3 Years of Living Together Into Reconciliation in Just 3 Months

We’d like to share the remarkable story of M, who went from being told by her live-in boyfriend “please never appear in front of me again” and having him block her on all social media, to achieving reconciliation in just three months.

Days Filled with Anxiety and Doubt Despite Living Together

M and her boyfriend had been dating for three years and living together. Yet their relationship was far from the lovey-dovey kind.

Whenever he came home late, she’d be consumed with anxiety thinking “Is he with another girl?” She’d get frustrated that he wouldn’t do things the way she wanted, and they’d constantly clash as both of them hurled their feelings and expectations at each other. Arguments never stopped.

Before they started dating, he was incredibly sincere, but after they got together, whispers of other women seemed to appear, and even her friends started saying “Wait, was he always like that?” He gradually changed in increasingly undesirable ways.

Looking back now, all of M’s thoughts were manifesting into reality. Through the subconscious mind’s law of “you think it, so it becomes,” her anxious feelings were materializing one after another.

Breaking Up After Being Told “I Can’t Even Look at Your Face”

As this situation continued, her boyfriend finally said to her, “I can’t even look at your face. Please never appear in front of me again,” and they broke up in a state of despair.

After the breakup, he blocked her on all social media. When she went to his place, he wouldn’t answer the door. She had absolutely no opportunity to talk to him. From the perspective of conscious awareness (surface-level consciousness), it was quite a harsh situation.

She Had Knowledge of the Subconscious Mind, But…

M originally had knowledge of the subconscious mind and understood that “my thoughts manifest into reality.” However, whenever a reality that didn’t match what she’d decided would show up, she’d often think “I guess it’s impossible after all.”

When faced with reality, all the conviction she’d built up would just evaporate. Many people experience this, don’t they?

An Important Realization: “Even Unpleasant Circumstances Are Something I’ve Attracted”

But here, M gained an important insight.

“I don’t think I fully understood that even unpleasant circumstances are something I’ve attracted into my life. When you see a bad reality and take back your decision, then that bad reality just continues, right? I’ve come to realize recently that the act of taking it back like that meant I hadn’t truly decided in the first place.”

It’s hard to look at an unpleasant reality and think “I attracted this too.” But to put it in terms of the law of attraction, even unpleasant realities are worlds we’ve created ourselves.

“If It’s Not Going to Work Anyway, Let’s Just Be Stupid”

Rejected by her boyfriend and suffering daily, seeing the harsh reality and sinking into despair—but then M’s consciousness underwent a major shift.

“If nothing’s going to change no matter what I do anyway, let me just become stupid about this.”

And whenever her ego (negative thoughts) would arise, she began to mentally refrain: “But I’m loved though.”

The Result: Brain Refrain Became Automated

As she consciously countered with “But I’m loved though” and “No wait, I’m still loved” whenever something happened, something remarkable occurred—whenever anxiety would pop up, her inner voice automatically came back with “Okay, but I’m loved and we’re totally lovey-dovey so…” doing the countering all on its own.

As this happened, she noticed she was spending significantly less time worrying about him.

Whenever strong anxiety would attack her, she’d say out loud “I am loved by him, we’re lovey-dovey” and do affirmations (repeating positive statements) as long as it felt good.

Self-Love Was the Foundation from the Start

Actually, even before she met her boyfriend, M had a habit of often telling herself in her head “I’m so cute, I love myself.” She’d literally narrate as she walked: “Here comes cute me, even though I’m chubby, walking right past you three times.” Because this habit stuck with her, she had considerable confidence in her appearance.

But once she entered that unstable relationship with her boyfriend, she stopped consciously practicing self-love and became increasingly absorbed in the romance, until her boyfriend became her entire world instead of herself.

“Because I stopped being able to value myself, the reality that matched that thought came to me, right?”

Exactly—when you don’t value yourself, you attract circumstances where you’re not valued either.

Becoming Popular and Dating Someone Else

As her heart settled down, her brain automatically delivered those comebacks, and oddly enough, her confidence grew. She stopped constantly thinking about her boyfriend.

And surprisingly, M became incredibly popular. She received more confessions and actually dated someone else for a while.

But she thought “Actually, I prefer him” and ended that relationship. The moment she realized “I really do love him after all,” her boyfriend suddenly started reaching out to her actively and wanting to meet.

Sudden Unblock and Reconciliation

After repeatedly countering anxious thoughts with “But I’m loved, we’re totally lovey-dovey,” practicing self-love, dating and breaking up with someone else, and continuing to think about her original boyfriend as lovey-dovey—one day, he suddenly unblocked her and reached out.

He even rearranged his work schedule to come see her after work. And this was the boyfriend who struggled to contact people regularly.

She cried that day, but he told her “I’ve been thinking about you this whole time, I love you,” and they got back together. His transformation was shocking.

Reality Is Just a Bonus That Follows Your Perception

M’s most striking words were these:

“I really came to understand that what matters isn’t what’s happening in reality right now—your inner perception is everything. Reality is just like a bonus that follows along with your perception.”

As she kept delivering those mental comebacks, her conviction became stronger than the reality itself.

M Only Practiced the Fundamentals Faithfully

Everything M did was based on faithful practice of the fundamentals.

• Decide your thought (Me and him, lovey-dovey)
• Counter when ego appears (Negative thoughts)
• Value yourself (Self-love)

Anyone can do this. The only difference is that M followed through completely.

Even when she felt tempted to give up upon seeing the reality, she didn’t stop there. She kept countering and countering until her brain was rewritten, and she kept believing that her beloved boyfriend was the one for her.

The moment you think “It’s hopeless,” it truly becomes hopeless. Because only you can do the thinking.

Summary: Reconciliation Is Child’s Play

What we can learn from M’s experience is that no matter how hopeless a situation appears, reality will change when you shift your perception.

“If it’s not going to work anyway, let me just be stupid about this.”

This boldness became the catalyst that dramatically shifted M’s consciousness. Reality doesn’t matter. Your inner perception is everything. Decide your thought, toss out your ego, and value yourself. That’s all it takes for reconciliation to be child’s play ♡