Can a Counselor or Mentor Really Make You More Confident?
Break free from the stress of lacking confidence!
To manifest your desires through the subconscious mind, “You attract what you believe. That’s it.” But I truly believe there’s nothing more powerful than being confident. Because confidence means believing in yourself. When you believe in yourself, you can decide what you want without hesitation, and once you’ve decided, you can trust yourself and let it unfold naturally. That’s why we’re sharing this three-part series on breaking free from “lack of confidence.”
Should I try counseling to build confidence?
Hello, this is Iruru. Welcome to Part 2 of our series on overcoming “lack of confidence.” Back when I struggled with confidence, I couldn’t believe that it was okay to just be myself.
So I thought, “Maybe if I attend a seminar or get counseling, something will shift?” I enrolled in a love manifestation seminar (it cost around $200), visited fortune tellers who claimed they could help my relationship, and analyzed our compatibility…
I kept repeating this pattern of seeking out “someone” external, believing their advice completely, and trying whatever they suggested. I attended every seminar and consultation that seemed promising, spending so much money and time in the process.
Why relying too heavily on outside opinions can backfire
Looking back, I realize those seminars and consultations were genuinely interesting – I learned different perspectives and the content was often valuable. In that sense, they weren’t completely useless.
But they actually trapped me in a vicious cycle. The more I focused on external viewpoints, the more I started comparing myself to others and losing even more confidence.
Getting counseling to build confidence isn’t inherently bad, and it might help you discover something important about yourself. However, when listening to external opinions, I think it’s crucial to decide not to become dependent on them.
Even when a counselor offers advice, remember it’s not the one “100% correct” answer – it’s just one option among many, and you get to choose whether to accept it or not. When I lacked confidence, I had a tendency to take advice at face value and rely on it completely. I totally understand that temptation, but I want you to pause and think it through.
When you receive advice, it’s wonderful if you consider it carefully and think, “Yes, I want to try this!” But if something feels off to you, no matter how credentialed or respected the advisor is, I want you to trust that inner feeling that something isn’t quite right.
This applies not just to counseling, but also to fortune-telling and spiritual coaching.
Some spiritual advisors can perceive things beyond the physical realm and share messages with you. Especially with spiritual matters, since most of us can’t see these things ourselves, it’s easy to feel like whatever we’re told must be 100% accurate. When someone has a reputation as a highly accurate psychic, we tend to assume everything they say is correct. But you still get to decide for yourself what resonates and what doesn’t.
Remember: your life is what you create
No matter what anyone tells you, if it doesn’t feel right after checking in with your inner wisdom, you don’t have to accept it. The final decision is always yours.
We also share various insights through our videos and articles, but there’s absolutely no need for you to accept everything we say 100%. It’s perfectly fine to take only the parts that feel good and helpful to you.
Instead of constantly seeking information from the outside, I started having genuine conversations with my inner self and began valuing my own perspective. That’s when I gradually started feeling more confident in who I am.
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