Reader Questions #3: I Keep Getting Negative – Will It Work If I’m Positive?

Hello. This is Iruru.

Today, I want to share a question I received that I thought would be helpful to many people.

(The details have been modified to protect the reader’s privacy)

“I’ve decided that what I want will happen, and I’m thinking ‘I’m in love with him,’ but I end up worrying about whether he’s contacted me, and I spiral into negative thoughts. I try to force myself to be positive, but the negative feelings won’t go away. If I force myself to be positive, will it work? If I’m negative, it won’t come true, right? I can’t seem to stay positive – what should I do?”

Does being negative mean it won’t come true?

“If I’m negative, it won’t manifest, right?
I can’t stay positive, what should I do?”
We get this question all the time.

Even when you make up your mind, all sorts of negative thoughts pop up and you don’t feel like it’s going to happen! I can’t embody who I want to be! I totally get how you feel.

But here’s the thing – your subconscious mind only knows one way to make things happen: “Because I believe it, it will happen.”

So even when negative thoughts, doubts, and ego come up, I recommend you simply let them go the moment they appear.
Just return to being yourself and thinking, “It’s already done!”

It’s completely okay when negative thoughts and ego come up.

The ego is going to show up – that’s just what it does, and you can’t stop it.

But when you notice “Oh, there it is again,” just let it go.
“But it’s already done!” and return to being the person who has what they want.

You can stay negative and still make it happen

Somehow we think being positive is better than being negative, but there’s no rule that says “If you’re not positive, things won’t manifest.”

If you think it’s better for you to be positive, that’s fine. And if you tend to be negative, I think it’s good to forgive yourself for that.

Even if you tend toward negativity, there’s no problem as long as you can quickly return to your knowing. So when negative thoughts arise, it might help to tell yourself, “It’s okay to be negative.”

If you’re still worried, try flipping it to positive

Having a negative mindset has nothing to do with achieving your desires, but if you don’t like your negative self, we recommend trying to transform that negativity into something positive.

Negative feelings and thoughts can often be reframed as positive statements.
For example, like this:

• I’m worried about him and feel anxious → I love him so much that I feel anxious when I think about him!

• I can’t help but think about him and it hurts → I love him so much that I can’t help but think about him!

• It’s been a year since we broke up → I must really love him to keep loving him for a whole year!

It’s actually fun to write down your thoughts in a notebook and practice converting them yourself.

If you feel like you’re having too many negative thoughts, give this a try.