Reader Questions #8: Should I Contact Him to Get Back Together?

From H

I’ve been ignoring reality and decided not to reach out to him anymore.
I stopped contacting him through email, text, or any other way.
But his birthday is coming up soon.

I heard he recently changed jobs.
I think he might be under a lot of stress right now.
I want to show him my support.
Would it be okay to contact him to wish him happy birthday or send a gift?
Or is it better to not contact him at all?

When you’ve decided to ignore reality, is reaching out still a bad idea?

Your subconscious mind operates on the principle: “What you believe becomes your reality.”
So if you want to manifest your desire through your subconscious, you simply need to believe it.

In my videos and on this blog, I always say to cherish the thoughts you’ve decided on and become the person you want to be starting “right now.”

So first, if you want to be in a loving relationship with him, decide that you already are.
Even if you can’t contact him right now, even if he’s blocked you on social media, or even if you’ve heard rumors about him with someone else, ignore all of it. “Right now,” you are in love with him and he with you.

I also encourage you to pour yourself some delicious coffee and enjoy the happiness that’s right in front of you.

So first, “decide on your reality.” I want you to do this first.

“I’ve made up my mind, but I still want to contact him. Is that okay?”

“I’ve decided! I’m already so in love with him and he with me!

But his birthday is coming up, and I also want to reach out for Christmas. I’d love to wish him a Happy New Year during the holidays.

If I were truly the loved and loving version of myself, shouldn’t I just go ahead and contact him? Is it okay?”

After deciding on your reality, some people, like this person, still have doubts. Here’s the bottom line: it’s completely up to you whether you contact him or not.

Once you’ve made your decision, the principle of “you attract what you believe” remains unchanged.

Whether you reach out or not doesn’t affect this principle. So if you genuinely want to send a quick message or wish him well, go ahead and do it.

But here’s the key question: What if you send a message and it goes unread or gets ignored? What if you send a gift and it’s returned unopened? How would you react? Would your ego take over with overwhelming emotions?

In cases like this, it becomes really challenging to maintain the mindset of “having decided on your reality” and “being the person who already has what she desires.”

No matter how he reacts, can you stay true to yourself?

Once you’ve decided on your reality, whether to contact him or not is entirely your choice. But the crucial part is what happens after.

If you find yourself waiting anxiously for his response after contacting him, and getting emotionally affected by how he reacts, it might be better not to contact him at all.

If you end up being swayed by his reactions, overthinking everything, and feeling anxious, you’re no longer “deciding on your reality” — you’re just getting caught up in and affected by external circumstances.

That said, if you hear he’s stressed or going through a tough time, it’s natural to want to help.

In my personal opinion, even in that case, I would trust him and simply send love from a distance. I wouldn’t contact him directly.

Once you’ve given your desire to your subconscious mind, the how and when is completely up to it. Whether it’s his birthday, Christmas, or any other occasion, it’s more important to focus on keeping yourself happy rather than taking specific actions.

If you’ve truly decided on your reality, he will start reaching out to you naturally. And even then, if you ever feel anxious, it’s perfectly okay to seek guidance or vent your feelings. Just don’t let it consume you!