Feeling Anxious About Using Your Subconscious Mind for Love? Here’s What to Do

Hi there, it’s Iruru! I’m always telling you that when you want to manifest something using your subconscious mind, all you have to do is “decide what you want and consider it done.”

Let’s say you have a crush on someone. You simply think, “We’re already together and in love,” and that becomes your reality. Want to get back with an ex? Same thing—just decide “We’re already back together and happy,” and watch it unfold.

That’s literally it. After that, I encourage you to go live your life and enjoy all the beautiful moments happening right now. But here’s what happens: some people start getting anxious and think, “Wait, is manifesting love really that easy? Just decide and it’s done?”

You’re anxious because you have nothing to “do”!

I used to write about love psychology and answer relationship questions all the time. So let me give you an example. Imagine someone came to me with this problem, and we weren’t talking about subconscious manifestation at all:

Traditional relationship advice might sound like this:

Try doing things that make him happy.

Maybe give him thoughtful gifts or stay in regular contact.

When you text, don’t be overwhelming. Play it cool and show your interest subtly.

Sound familiar?

With advice like this, you’d have concrete steps to follow and work on.

You could see how your actions played out, analyze the results, and keep your mind busy figuring out what to do next.

But when you’re manifesting through your subconscious mind? All you do is decide what you believe.

That’s it.

You’ll probably make this decision when you’re alone, so there’s no immediate reaction to observe.

You don’t need to look for signs or check reality—just make your decision and live from that place.

 

When you do this, there’s suddenly nothing to analyze or overthink. You might feel lost, wondering, “Are we really supposed to just… leave it at that?”

Even though there’s nothing you need to figure out, your ego starts running wild and creates anxiety out of thin air.

It’s completely okay to feel anxious

Here’s what you need to know: feeling anxious doesn’t change whether your manifestation will work.

The law of subconscious manifestation is simple: “You attract what you believe.” Whether you’re anxious or not, what matters is staying in the feeling of already having what you want.

It’s totally normal to feel unsure and wonder if this really works. You don’t need to figure out your next move. Just keep living from the place of already having your desire.

Feel anxious if you need to, but I want you to decide to stay in that “I already have it” state without letting the anxiety shake that belief.

When you give yourself permission to feel anxious while still knowing you can manifest your desires, you might notice that anxiety naturally starts to fade.

Videos I recommend for dealing with anxiety

I’ve talked about anxiety a lot in my videos, so if you’re feeling stuck in anxious thoughts, I hope these help you find some relief.

Why Does the Ego Create Anxious Girls?

When anxiety hits, you often mistake your racing thoughts for reality. This video breaks down what the ego actually is in simple terms, so you can see that all that worry isn’t necessary.

Are you a girl who wants to be insecure?

Some people get so used to anxiety that “not being anxious becomes anxiety.” Once they realize they’re actually looking for things to worry about, they can finally let go.

Even if you’re anxious, if you can still drink water, you can manifest love!

You know how people say with the law of attraction, “negative things can manifest too”? So does that mean if you’re anxious, that anxiety will become reality?

Some people really worry about this. This video puts that fear to rest.

Books I recommend when anxiety strikes

Words to Make Anxiety Disappear in 1 Second: By Psychiatrist Dr. Tommy

Every page is bite-sized and easy to read—you can go through the whole book or just flip to whatever catches your eye. When you’re feeling anxious about anything, this will help you feel so much lighter.
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Psychiatrist’s Guide to Stress-Free Living: The Ultimate Guide

The author focuses on what really matters:
• Getting stress-free sleep
• Not carrying stress and exhaustion into tomorrow
Does this speak to you?
When your mind is tired, you’ll probably find yourself drowning in even more worries.
If this sounds helpful, definitely give it a try.

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Turning Anxiety into Hope! The ‘Zero Reset’ Magic

This one’s by Ken Spirit, who’s huge on YouTube and Voicy.
He shares his personal journey from rock bottom to transformation in a way that’s so easy to understand.
Perfect if you feel like you need a spark to help you break through whatever fog you’re in.

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