Are you being honest with your own feelings?

Hello, I’m Iruru.

As I read the consultations I receive from readers of this blog,

I’ve recently been wondering if there are times when you’re unable to be honest about your feelings due to various emotions like pride, fear, or anxiety about others.

While answering various questions, I remembered this video.

Although it’s a video from a little while ago, titled “Honest People Have a Direct Line to Manifestation!” In this video, we discuss how honest individuals, because they stay true to their feelings, can let go of their egos, and as a result, their desires manifest more quickly (though it’s also possible for desires to manifest even if you’re not completely honest!).

Are you being honest with your thoughts?

For example, at the beginning of your consultation letter, you write, “I want to get back together,” but as you continue writing about various concerns, you become filled with dissatisfaction about him and anxiety about what might happen after getting back together. In the end, you’re the kind of person who writes, “I want a happy relationship, even if it’s with someone else.”

The subconscious mind says, “Because I think so, it will happen.” If we apply this to love, it would be, “I think I’m in love with him, so I’m in love with him.”

On this blog, I always say that you should set your “thoughts” to be “madly in love with him,” but even though you write “I want to get back together,” you also write “I want a happy relationship, even if it’s with someone else.” If this is the case, your “thoughts” may not be clearly set.

However, I’ve recently come to think that there are quite a few people who struggle to be honest with themselves.

There may be some people who have stopped themselves from thinking clearly, or from acknowledging their honest desires.

In the example I mentioned earlier, I think people who aren’t honest about their feelings go through a process like this. (The following is adapted from an actual consultation).

If you can’t be honest, it’s hard to see your true feelings.

When you read this, you really don’t know whether this person wants to get back together or not.

I think there are multiple factors at play, such as not being able to decide on your thoughts and having your ego get in the way, but if you look at it from the perspective of not being honest with your thoughts,

You really want to get back together, but things from your past that hurt you, like him cheating, are getting in the way, so you can’t stay true to your feelings of being in love with him.

What do you want to value?

When it comes to being honest with your feelings, it’s a simple concept: just stay true to your feelings. However, if you find it challenging to do so, I encourage you to reflect on what truly matters to you.

In the example we discussed earlier, if you’ve been hurt by a past event like your partner cheating and you’re unable to forgive, it’s about considering which of these conflicting emotions you want to prioritize. It’s about weighing the anger and resentment against your love for him.

If anger and resentment are dominating your emotions, it might be a good idea to acknowledge and release those feelings of “unforgiveness.”

During this time, you can focus on self-care and nurturing yourself. Later, if you find yourself thinking, “I still love him!” you can then reaffirm the thought of being “deeply in love with him.”

The key is being true to your own feelings. Once you understand what truly matters to you, it becomes much easier to be honest with your thoughts and feelings.