From 7 Years Single to Dating Someone 12 Years Younger! The Shift in Consciousness That Made Her Think “Being Single Is Okay Too”

“Am I the only one who can’t get a boyfriend?”
“With no chance of meeting anyone, maybe I’ll stay single forever…”

If you’re carrying these worries with you, I have a hopeful success story to share.

It’s the story of M, who had been without a boyfriend for 7 years, and how she ended up with a wonderful boyfriend who is 12 years younger. And remarkably, from meeting to dating, everything progressed naturally without any rushing.

Seven Years Without Meeting Anyone—Days of Desperate Effort

Let’s look at M’s romantic history:

• 10 years of dating a man 13 years older (with some emotionally controlling tendencies)
• Wanted to marry, but he said “I have no intention of getting married”—relationship ended
• After that, 7 years with no boyfriend
• Met a foreign man but couldn’t proceed to dating because he said “I can’t consider marriage”

During this time, M was actively pursuing opportunities to meet someone:

• Registered with multiple dating apps
• Attended marriage matchmaking parties
• Used pick-up bar services
• Went places hoping to be approached

Truly a “desperate period,” you could say.

But she wasn’t meeting anyone who made her heart skip a beat. She was in a state where “I meet people, but I don’t meet anyone who captures my heart”—a cycle that continued.

Have you experienced something like this?

The Unexpected Turning Point That COVID Brought

The Forced End of Meeting Opportunities

Then came the COVID-19 pandemic. The venues for meeting people suddenly disappeared.

It might seem like “the worst situation” on the surface. But for M, this actually became a positive turning point.

M’s own words:

“Maybe it was actually good that I couldn’t attend meeting venues anymore. I felt relieved to be freed from that sense of ‘I must do something, I must make effort.’”

This feeling of “internal relief” is a crucial turning point.

Getting Hooked on Korean Dramas and Finding Peace of Mind

With work becoming remote, M found herself spending more time at home. She became completely absorbed in Korean dramas and Korean pop idols.

On the surface, this seems unrelated to romance, but it was actually a very important shift.

A consciousness shift from “outward, outward” to “inward, inward”

Her consciousness, which had been directed outward in search of meetings, transformed into a consciousness directed inward, enjoying the things she loved.

In terms of the subconscious, her focus shifted to her own “thoughts” (her inner world).

One Year with Her 12-Years-Younger Partner Met Through an App

Communication Without Expectations

During this more relaxed period, M met her current boyfriend through an app.

Even after they both deleted the app, they continued exchanging LINE messages for nearly a year.

But his replies typically came 2-3 days later. His response pace wasn’t particularly fast.

M’s reflection:
“I thought maybe he wasn’t that interested in me, so without any expectations, I exchanged messages at his pace in a matter-of-fact way.”

In most cases, you’d judge it as “no romantic interest” and give up.

But M was obsessed with Korean pop idols and had no expectations about him. Her heart had space. And that was exactly what worked.

When Your Heart Has Space, Love Can Enter

The subconscious teaches us: “When your heart has no space, nothing new can enter.”

When you’re desperately seeking love, your heart is packed tight with no space. But M was enjoying what she loved and had room in her heart.

The Self-Questioning One Month Before Fate Changed

Facing an Uncomfortable Reality

One month before meeting her boyfriend in person, M asked herself these questions:

“Why do I hate being single so much?”
“How would I live if I stayed single forever?”

And she found her answer:

“If I stayed single forever, I could travel the world, make lots of close friends everywhere. That way, even if I’m alone in my old age, I won’t be lonely.”

A Dramatic Shift in Consciousness—Being Myself Is Okay

In that moment, M’s consciousness transformed dramatically.

Before: “Single me = Bad, Unhappy”
From that moment on: “Single me is okay, partnered me is okay”

She faced head-on the possibility of being single her whole life and decided that would be okay too.

In terms of the subconscious, her “self-love” deepened. A foundation was created where she could accept any version of herself.

Dating Started Smoothly—A Natural Flow

Unshaken Even When Ego Emerged

One month after achieving that mindset, the state of emergency was lifted and she went to visit his city.

When she talked to him on the phone, she had a premonition: “I might be dating this person.”

But at the same time, ego (negative thoughts) appeared:
“It’s long distance, our work schedules don’t match, he’s 12 years younger, he might not like me that much.”

But M went to meet him thinking, “Well, I guess I’ve made a cute younger friend,” and that was it.

As a result, dating started naturally.

Their Current Relationship

Since they started dating, he’s turned out to be very affectionate and kind.

Even though they’re long distance, he reassures her. His communication style has completely changed from those laid-back LINE messages—now he reaches out frequently.

M’s words:
“I notice the age gap, and while I was always the quiet, shy type, it’s strange—I can talk with him for hours.”

Key Lessons from M’s Consciousness Shift

1. Believing That Being Yourself Is Okay

The biggest factor in M’s success was being able to think “being single is okay too.”

This is what the subconscious calls deepening “self-love.” When you can accept yourself in any situation, the stage of your heart expands.

2. The Comfort of No Expectations

Even during a year of LINE exchanges, she didn’t expect anything and matched his pace.

This could be called a state of “letting go to a higher power.” Rather than trying to control things, she surrendered to the natural flow.

3. Enjoying What You Love

The time spent absorbed in Korean dramas was important too.

Not “him, him, him” but “myself, myself, myself”—time dedicated to valuing yourself. This self-care ultimately attracted love.

The Happiness That Continues Today

M and her boyfriend continue their relationship smoothly today.

Sometimes ego pops up—”Will we be able to get married down the road?”—but she switches gears and thinks, “Let me try not to dwell on it and enjoy the present moment.”

“I want to enjoy now with my beloved 12-years-younger boyfriend who’s right beside me.”

This mindset is surely making their relationship even better.

In Conclusion: There’s No Expiration Date on Love

What M’s story teaches us:

• There’s no expiration date on meeting someone (it’s okay even with a 7-year gap)
• When you accept yourself as you are, doors open
• The comfort of having no expectations attracts good encounters
• Time spent valuing yourself ultimately leads to romantic fulfillment

If you think “I’m the only one who can’t meet anyone,” don’t worry.

You’re already doing great. Meeting someone is a piece of cake♡