When You’re Hurting, You’re Not Broken — You’re Just Possessed by Your Ego
Hi, it’s Meguru here.
You want to get back together with him, but deep down, he’s been distant…
Once you tap into your subconscious mind and think, “Everything will work out,” there’s one major obstacle standing in your way: your ego and the thoughts that come with it.
He’s distant with you.
He gets along great with other people.
He moved far away.
It hurts so much.
That painful, sinking feeling—that heaviness in your chest.
He might have a new girlfriend.
And the moment that thought crosses your mind, you find yourself stalking his or her Instagram, blogs, Twitter—following their every move.
You’re searching for proof that goes against what you want.
No matter how you look at it, this makes no sense.
You said you wanted to reunite with him. You reached out to your subconscious for help. You understood that “your thoughts create your reality.”
So you decided: you’re going to be in love with him because you *chose* to be in love with him.
And yet, here you are, scrolling back through his or her Instagram and blog posts like a detective looking for clues.
Wait—are you seriously digging through his posts to find evidence that he’s dating someone else?
You say you want him back. But your actions tell a completely different story!
You know this doesn’t make sense. You know you should stop. But you can’t seem to help yourself.
This is what I call “being possessed by your ego.”
Your ego has taken control.
It’s possession, plain and simple.
Because honestly? It’s madness.
Think about how contradictory this is: you’ve decided you’re in love with him, yet you’re on a mission to find evidence that you’re *not*.
Here’s the thing—if you go back through your ex’s Instagram or Twitter looking for reasons to worry, you’re going to find something. The chances of stumbling upon something *good* for you? Nearly zero.
Do you know why?
Your premise is flawed, so you find what you’re looking for.
Because you’re viewing everything through the lens of suspicion. You’re looking at his or her posts with the assumption that “they’re probably dating.”
When your starting point is doubt, that’s what you’ll find.
Or maybe you’re scrolling with the anxious hope that you *won’t* find anything upsetting.
But that anxiety itself is your premise: the belief that “my ex is probably with someone else.”
With that mindset, what are the odds you’ll come across something reassuring? Pretty slim, right?
Deep down, you know this. You know there’s no point in going back to check. You know you don’t *want* to check.
Yet you keep doing it anyway. You can’t stop.
No matter how you slice it, that’s ego possession to the max lol
Recognizing possession is how you break free from your ego.
When your ego has possessed you, it forces you to do things you don’t actually want to do. But here’s the shift: if you can *see* that possession for what it is, you create distance between yourself and that fierce ego. You can step back and say, “Oh, I see. This wasn’t really *me*.”
I think that’s the real turning point.
Ah, I obsessively checked social media because my ego had me in its grip.
Ah, I’m so anxious because my ego is controlling me.
Ah, I’ve been spiraling with thoughts like “I can’t handle this,” “I can’t do this,” and “It’s over”—all because my ego has possessed me.
Exactly.
Once you recognize the possession, you can shut it down.
No matter how much your heart aches, no matter how much anxiety floods through you, no matter how many times you refresh his or her page—if it’s all your ego at work,
After you’ve suffered,
After you’ve felt that fog settle in,
After you’ve scrolled back one too many times,
After you’ve wrestled with it for a while,
you’ll suddenly snap awake and think, “Oh. I was being controlled by my ego.” You’ll come to your senses and realize, “Yes, it felt incredibly real and authentic, but it was still possession.” Then, as always, ask yourself: “So? What do I actually want?”
What do you *really* want? To be happy and madly in love with him, right?
In that case, the answer is simple: “That’s right. There’s no other version of me that works!” Stop entertaining doubt and keep your focus on being that version of you who’s blissfully in love with him. Stay committed to *that* version of yourself.
In the end, no matter what detours you take, you’ll arrive at the same conclusion anyway. I know that sounds repetitive, but it’s the truth, so I keep saying it.
Meditation is a powerful tool for breaking free from ego
Mindfulness practices, especially meditation, are incredibly helpful when your ego has a strong hold on you.
I don’t think meditation is absolutely essential for manifesting your desires, but it plays a huge role in “quieting the noise”—in other words, “spotting the ego that’s controlling you” ^^
Companies like Google have made it a cornerstone of their culture, and it’s become quite the phenomenon. I get it—the pain of ego possession is real! But there’s no benefit in staying stuck there forever ^^
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