Even Though I’m Drinking Delicious Coffee, I Don’t Remember Yesterday’s Coffee

Meguru is still grinding away on her manuscript even though the year is almost over. Yes, I’m literally crying over here!

I’m completely obsessed with coffee (let’s be honest, it’s probably an addiction), so I write with a cup constantly in hand. But I just had this random thought that made me pause my writing to share with you.

Picture this: you’re sipping your coffee, herbal tea, or whatever your go-to drink is, and you think,

“Mmm, this coffee is absolutely perfect…” But then your mind starts wandering and suddenly you’re like, “Wait, this coffee is incredible… but wow, yesterday morning’s coffee was so bitter! Ugh, it was terrible! How does that even happen? I hate when that happens!!!“

Wouldn’t you rather just enjoy the fact that you’re drinking amazing coffee right now?

If you’re dealing with a breakup or life just isn’t going your way, do you find yourself complaining about yesterday’s bitter coffee while sipping perfectly delicious coffee today? Let me tell you why this matters so much.

If you can catch yourself thinking “Don’t let your beautiful love story get ruined like this coffee!” then you’ve stumbled onto something incredible.

What if we just let go of the past and chose love instead?

As we know, the subconscious mind operates on the simple principle of “whatever you think becomes your reality.”

So even if you’ve had to say goodbye to someone you love, that doesn’t actually change anything.

“What you think” = “I’m so happy being married to that person”

If you truly feel that way deep down, you’ll eventually find yourself living in a reality that matches “I’m happy being married to that person.”

Here’s the thing:

what happened before doesn’t actually matter

That’s the key insight.

This is incredibly important, and honestly,

It means that “saying goodbye to someone I love” really doesn’t matter at all.
What happened (the past) truly doesn’t matter, yet somehow we get trapped in this endless cycle of obstacles.

Because honestly, it’s so confusing!

I’m worried about everything because of this breakup, but the breakup doesn’t actually matter! It’s mind-blowing when you really think about it.

But when you remember “what I think becomes my reality,” everything becomes clear:

Your thoughts come first.
Reality follows.

No exceptions to this rule.

Your thoughts come first.
Reality follows.

So whatever we’re thinking right now will manifest in our reality later.

If “what I’m thinking now” is “Breaking up with him was so painful, he said this hurtful thing, he did that awful thing. Ugh, it still stings,” and you hold onto that forever, that’s exactly what keeps getting recreated. You stay trapped in that emptiness.

That’s why I’m asking: “What if we just let go of the past and chose love instead?”

So what should you actually do? It’s surprisingly simple.

Right now, I’m so excited about being married to that person.

Just think that thought.

You might be thinking, “If I could do that, I wouldn’t be struggling right now,” but there are actually moments when you absolutely can do this!

Right now, I’m drinking coffee and it tastes incredible.

That’s happening in this moment.

You don’t drag out yesterday’s coffee or last week’s coffee to complain about how bitter it was. You can enjoy what’s happening right now. Since you can do that with coffee, you can enjoy the “now” with love too.

Right now, I’m so excited about being married to that person.

The goal is to start thinking this way right now.

The more important something is to me, the more I get stuck in the past

“Wait, that logic makes no sense at all!”

The “honor student Meguru” inside me jumped up with a determined expression.

 

She’s ready to slam her hand on the desk and argue with everything she’s got.

[chat face=”Cats777993-1-e1621414988553.png” name=”Meguru” align=”left” border=”red” bg=”none”]Hold on, isn’t this completely ridiculous? Think about it logically! You can’t possibly compare coffee to someone you love! Coffee is just a drink. The person I love is a human being. This comparison almost makes me feel silly! [/chat]

But the subconscious mind doesn’t make these kinds of distinctions.

[chat face=”Cats777993-1-e1621414988553.png” name=”Meguru” align=”right” border=”red” bg=”none”] It’s the exact same principle. Even for people who are obsessed with coffee! [/chat]

To put it more precisely, it doesn’t matter if it’s coffee, your crush, or anything else. You just need to stay in that “happy version of me” state right now. In that sense, coffee and your beloved person get the same treatment.

Now, the fact that you can’t treat coffee and your favorite person the same way (which is completely understandable, but stay with me here),

shows just how incredibly precious this person is to you.

That’s what it reveals.

Of course the person you love is precious!

Absolutely. It’s completely natural that they’re precious, but here’s what typically happens:

the more precious someone is to you, the more you get stuck dwelling on the past—and only the painful parts.

“They did this to me.”
“What they said really hurt me.”
“I can’t get over the way they acted…” Stop right there.

This is all completely understandable, but if you keep bringing up painful memories and trying to “love them now” despite all the hurt they caused, then no matter how much time passes, you’ll keep wanting to “bring up more painful memories.” It becomes an endless cycle, and it’s such a waste of your precious energy.

Just “say goodbye to the person you love”—let go of all the stuff that doesn’t actually matter.

Let’s put all our energy into “I’m so excited about being married to that person right now!”

One final thought…

I completely understand the feeling of “I would have done this long ago if it were that easy…” so I’ll leave you with some tough love.

Even if you can’t let go perfectly, just start letting go!

*Sorry if that sounds too blunt and overwhelming.

Meguru