Engagement Called Off, Reconciliation Achieved in 5 Months! A Success Story of Stopping Self-Blame

We’re sharing the inspiring story of Cさん, a woman in her 20s who experienced life’s greatest despair through a broken engagement, yet successfully reconciled with her partner in just 5 months.

Within the dramatic life changes of 4 years of dating, an engagement, quitting her job, and moving to a new city, she was suddenly told the engagement was off. The journey to reconciliation is filled with insights that will resonate with many women struggling with love.

A Sudden Broken Engagement Right After Moving—Rock Bottom

Cさん and her partner met at work and after 4 years of dating, became engaged. When Cさん had her first meal with him, she had an intuition: “I’m going to marry this person.” At that time, he was married to someone else, but after his divorce two years later, they naturally began dating.

Throughout their long relationship, those around them said they were “such a well-matched couple.” Things progressed smoothly—meeting each other’s parents, moving in together, and finally, getting engaged.

It happened right after they moved to a new city following his job transfer and she had quit her job.

“Actually, I can’t see myself getting married. I can’t see you as a woman. There’s no point in staying together like this, so let’s break up.”

These words completely changed Cさん’s life.

From Days of Self-Blame to Awakening to “Ego”

When he told her they were breaking up, Cさん cried and clung to him, but he left the house for several days and didn’t come back. Alone at home, she was overwhelmed by loneliness, cried for hours, and couldn’t eat.

“I just blamed myself endlessly. I truly thought I couldn’t go on living.”

Cさん gathered her essentials and went back to her parents’ house. It was the complete opposite of how she felt just days earlier when she had packed happily.

It was one month after the breakup when Cさん discovered ほめ♡レン while searching desperately for reconciliation advice online every day.

As she continued watching videos, Cさん made an important discovery.

“I realized that I had been blaming myself the whole time since we broke up, but it was all because of my ego.”

What Is Ego?—Understanding the Habit of Thought

“Ego” refers to the habitual thought patterns we fall into semi-automatically based on past experiences and common assumptions.

In Cさん’s case:
– There are women at his drinking party → She suspects infidelity
– He hasn’t asked her on a date → She worries, “Does he really like me?”
– He comes home late → She doubts, “Doesn’t he love me as much as I love him?”

All of these were ego-based reactions rooted in anxiety and fear, not her true desire to be happily in love with him.

“Even Boiling Water Is Self-Love”—Starting Small with Self-Affirmation

What shocked Cさん was the idea that “even boiling water is self-love.”

What Is Self-Love?—Cherishing Yourself

“Self-love” means loving yourself and treating yourself with care. You don’t need to do anything extraordinary. Every small daily action, when done for yourself, becomes an act of self-love.

What Cさん practiced:
– I’m amazing for waking up in the morning
– I’m amazing for going to work
– I’m amazing for eating meals
– I’m amazing just for living

“It’s all about recognizing and praising yourself over and over. Whenever I became anxious or thought I wasn’t good enough, I would tell myself, ‘It’s okay to feel that way. You’re doing great, and that’s amazing,’ and I would forgive and praise myself.”

She also had trauma from being told she wasn’t seen as a woman, but every day she would look in the mirror and tell herself, “You’re the most beautiful and charming person in the world.”

“I Won’t Let This Happen”—The Power of Making Up Your Mind

One month after the breakup, he contacted her saying, “Let’s meet and talk.” Cさん was thrilled at what seemed like a chance for reconciliation, but a few days later, she fell into despair again.

“Actually, I don’t think it’s worth my time and money to meet. Let’s just walk our separate paths from now on.”

Many people might give up at this point. But Cさん was different.

“If I waiver now, it’s truly over. I made a firm decision: ‘I won’t let this happen to me.’”

Making Up Your Mind—Prioritizing Your Thoughts Over Reality

“Making up your mind” means clarifying and deciding on your thoughts regardless of the current circumstances.

Cさん had made up her mind about one thing: “I am the beloved wife that he adores beyond measure.”

From that point on, she began living as if she had already married him:
– She ordered packages under his last name
– She put a ring on her left ring finger
– She looked up wedding venues and dresses

“I might have seemed crazy to outsiders, but it felt better to live as his wife.”

Reconciliation Success and a Boyfriend Transformed by Overwhelming Love

After that, he began contacting her. At first it was about once every two weeks, but gradually it became more frequent, and eventually he was calling her every week.

“Right before reconciliation, there were times when I thought I wanted to hear his voice, and the phone would ring right away.”

When they were going to meet on New Year’s, Cさん had decided one thing: “Since I get to see him, I’m going to make sure it’s a wonderful time together.”

The result:

“I realized there’s no one else I get along with this well. I love you, Cさん. I want to be together with you again.”

Reconciliation achieved.

Post-Reconciliation Doting Episodes

Six months after reconciliation, Cさん shares this:

“We’re in a long-distance relationship right now, but he contacts me every day, calls me when we can’t see each other, and I truly feel how much he loves me—it’s almost overwhelming. I’m half surprised and half thinking ‘of course’ at how completely he’s changed.”

Specific episodes:
– He messages her every single day
– He always calls when they can’t see each other
– He takes her on international trips
– He makes all her dreams come true
– He tells her, “I’m thinking seriously about marriage too, so look forward to it”

Conclusion—The Importance of Making Up Your Mind

From Cさん’s reconciliation success story, we can learn:

The Importance of Recognizing Ego

• Understand that anxiety and doubt are “ego” reactions
• Distinguish them from your true authentic self

Practicing Self-Love

• Build a habit of praising yourself starting with small things
• Go through your daily life with the awareness that “even boiling water is self-love”

The Power of Making Up Your Mind

• Don’t be swayed by current circumstances; clarify what you truly want
• Understand the importance of the determination: “I won’t let this happen”

Cさん’s message to you:

“Your thoughts are always on your side. If you make up your mind, everything will be okay. It really is just about making up your mind. Your deepest thoughts will create a beautiful future for you.”

Even life’s greatest despair—a broken engagement—can be overcome when you make up your mind. Cさん’s story proves it.

📺 After 4 years of dating, her engagement was called off ❤ She realized “self-blame is ego” and practiced “even boiling water is self-love.” After 5 months, her ex-boyfriend came back as a completely different man overflowing with love!

He hasn’t texted. And that’s exactly why you’ll win.

 

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