Don’t Entrust Your Happiness to Others

“He’s such a popular guy. Everyone says the competition is fierce.”
“My friend told me I should just give up on him.”
“My coworker said if we broke up, I should move on and never look back…”

We’re often told not to let outsiders influence us, but we still find ourselves worrying about what the people close to us are saying.

“Outside” means “other people.”
It also includes “society” – the world around us, social expectations, etc.

Regardless of subconscious work or anything else, it’s absolutely crucial not to be swayed by outsiders if you want to live your life on your own terms.

Outside opinions become your own opinions

From a subconscious perspective, “your thoughts create your world” (what you believe becomes your reality), so if you think “I’m constantly being influenced by others,” you end up creating a world where it’s easy to be swayed by “outside” forces.

However, people who are aware they’re being controlled by outside influences are actually experiencing mild symptoms. Many people don’t even realize they’re being controlled at all. (Meguru was like this too.)

What happens when we don’t realize we’re being swayed by the “outside”?

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Outside opinions become your own opinions.

“He’s so popular, the competition is intense. What should I do?”
“Maybe I should give up because I’m not good enough for him.”
“It’s kind of pathetic to get back together with an ex…”

There are so many times when we adopt opinions we think are our own, based on what “society” says, even though we don’t know who originally said it.

Honestly, it’s scary.

In this state, even if someone casually mentions something they just thought of, there’s a chance you’ll swallow it whole.

You’re not living your own life at all.

Put another way,

You’re entrusting your happiness to “outside” things

When you entrust your happiness to outside forces,

You get flustered by what this person said.
You get excited by what that person said.
You get hurt by what someone else said…

You’re constantly being pulled in different directions, which often leaves you feeling anxious and restless.

You’re also being swayed by the “outside” of him

And there’s a high probability you’re doing the same thing with your “special person.”

You feel down based on his words and actions.
You feel happy based on his words and actions.
You predict what will be good (or bad) in the future from his words and actions.
You measure your happiness based on his words and actions.

I get it.
It’s natural to be influenced by the words and actions of someone you care about.

But think about it.

Even that important person is still someone else, so from an “outside” perspective, it’s the same thing.

You’re simply being swayed by the “outside.”

 

People who are swayed by the “outside” aren’t just affected by that special person.
Whether it’s friends, coworkers, parents, or society at large, they’re constantly being influenced by outside forces.

They’re entrusting their happiness to “outside” things.

 

When Meguru realized this while talking with a close friend, she was completely shocked.

She noticed that when expressing an opinion, she unconsciously chose whatever most other people were saying.

The ego called “thinking” is also “outside”

Actually, there’s another “outside” force you can easily be manipulated by.

It’s the ego called “thinking.”

Take the fact that “he’s a popular person.”

“That’s why he’s out of my league.”
“So I need to become prettier.”
“That’s why I’m always anxious.”
“That’s why things aren’t working out.”

It’s that kind of thinking that instantly jumps in and shouts, “I can’t do it anyway.”

 

Can you see that this voice is completely “outside”?

You might think it’s “inside,” but it’s “outside.”

It’s just pretending to be “inside” lol

You think it’s yours, so you try to take care of it, but since it’s “outside,” it can do whatever it wants.

Although I talk about not inheriting second thoughts, until you reach a certain level, there’s nothing you can do about first thoughts. However, you can avoid inheriting second thoughts.

When I’m having a tough time, I usually start repeating second thoughts over and over lol.

Enjoy the present. This is the state of not entrusting happiness to outsiders

I think this ego called “thinking” can be replaced with common sense and ideas.

If we trace the origins of common sense and ideas, they might be words that some TV commentator said offhandedly.

For instance, “men cheat.”

So, when I focused on that “men cheat” idea,
When I was scrolling through Twitter, I came across the phrase “Men cheat“!
When I had dinner with a friend, she said, “Men cheat.”
When I got home, even my sister started saying things like “Men cheat!” ! ! ! !

And there it was: “Men tend to cheat.”

This is the true nature of common sense and ideas.

How ridiculous.

Doesn’t it seem absurd? lol

You don’t have to spend about 12 out of 24 hours on such “nonsense.”

Instead of those 12 hours,

Spend a minute being happy about the sunshine when you wake up.
Notice a minute passing when you hear a bird chirp.
Enjoy your coffee for just one minute.

Wouldn’t you feel so much better if you enjoyed those moments and accumulated time for them?

Enjoy those moments and accumulate time for them.
This is,

Living in this present moment.

Don’t entrust your happiness to others

Everything I’ve said so far can be summed up in one sentence.

Don’t entrust your happiness to others

That’s it.

Meguru has decided that everyone who visits this blog will find love, so she secretly checks various people’s social media.

“Are you having a hard time right now? Please hang in there…”
“Ah, looks like lots of good things are happening for you. That’s wonderful!”

She’s sending good vibes just in case (← she’s not being creepy, so it’s okay lol).

In situations like this, when she sees someone feeling down and thinking, “I guess it’s impossible…” after dwelling on past interactions with him, she just thinks, “Don’t go down that path…” ————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————

Your friends,
Your parents,
People at work,
All the “outside” forces we’ve been talking about don’t matter.

He is too.
Whatever “outside” thing he said or did?

It doesn’t matter.

Really, it doesn’t matter.
He’ll just follow along later lol

And those thoughts you think are yours are just scrambling around making no sense.

It’s fine to let outside forces be outside forces.

If you have time to worry about outside things, let’s enjoy this present moment instead.

Living in the present moment is the state of “not entrusting your happiness to others”

 

If you’d like, please watch this video ☆
This is a video that teaches you about the subconscious mind

This one is “Why is it so hard to manifest?”

♡Meguru♡