Reader Questions #17: I Like My Doctor But Feel Unworthy
I’ve fallen for someone, but there’s a professional barrier between us. Maybe you’re crushing on your doctor and you’re their patient. Or your hairstylist while you’re their client. Your teacher when you’re their student…
In these situations, it’s easy to put the other person on a pedestal and convince yourself you’re not good enough for them because of their professional status.
Today, I want to share a story from someone facing exactly this dilemma who reached out for guidance.
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I’ve developed feelings for a doctor at the hospital where I’m a patient. But he’s, well, a medical professional.
I’m not someone who belongs with such an incredible guy — I’m probably just another patient to him, right? I don’t even know if he’s married, and I have zero confidence about pursuing anything. Plus, the hospital has all these gorgeous nurses and assistants. I can’t even picture being alone with him, and it’s eating me up inside…I’m actually considering finding a different doctor.
Is the person I love really better than me?
We hear this a lot — people falling for their salon stylist, their yoga instructor, or their music teacher.
When you’re the one paying for services or lessons, it’s natural to feel like they hold a higher position than you do. Some people convince themselves they’re simply not in the same league.
I know everyone sees this differently, but personally? I don’t think there’s any hierarchy when I visit my doctor for treatment.
Sure, I’m not a doctor — couldn’t be one, wouldn’t want to be one. I’m genuinely grateful when they help me heal, and I have tremendous respect for the years of study, licensing, and experience that goes into their expertise. But that doesn’t create some kind of power imbalance between us as human beings.
It’s the same with this blog. I’m the one writing and answering questions, but that doesn’t put me above you, the reader. I’m not some enlightened guru or deity with a special ego. At the end of the day, I’m just another person — your equal in every way that matters.
It seems like you’re placing your crush “above” you and deciding all on your own that “it’s impossible (or at least very unlikely) to happen.”
Don’t put your crush on a pedestal!
There’s a video above that addresses this exact situation perfectly. If you haven’t watched it yet, I highly recommend giving it a look.
Thinking someone is above you? That’s just ego talking.
Look, it’s beautiful when the person you’re attracted to is someone you genuinely respect and admire.
But that admiration has absolutely nothing to do with your own worth. If you think it does, that’s just your ego creating stories — and you can choose to ignore those stories completely.
Let me share something personal with you.
What kind of person did I used to think was “amazing”?
I used to believe that respect had to be earned through specific achievements. Things like:
• Being a doctor • Making six figures • Winning awards • Having wealth • Graduating from an elite university • Speaking multiple languages
• Being athletic • Working at a prestigious company • Running their own business
And so on…
That person can do something I can’t, has experiences I don’t, so they’re amazing. I can’t do those things, so I’m not amazing. Therefore, they’re above me…
I spent years thinking this way, and it absolutely destroyed my self-esteem. I had zero confidence in myself and believed that confidence was something you had to earn through achievements and success.
But here’s what I’ve learned: confidence doesn’t have to come from accomplishments or external validation.
Real confidence is simply believing in yourself and being comfortable with who you are, right now. Even if you feel like you have “nothing” to show for yourself, you’re still you — and that’s more than enough reason to feel confident.
I held onto that old belief about earned confidence for so long that it took me ages to embrace this new perspective.
So if this doesn’t click for you immediately, don’t force it. Just let it sit with you and see if it resonates over time.
No matter who they are, just make the decision.
Let’s circle back to the original question.
The whole idea of “not being good enough” for someone? It’s not even a real obstacle. When it comes to manifestation through your subconscious mind, it literally doesn’t matter who the other person is.
Doctor, celebrity, hairstylist, chef at your favorite restaurant — the process is exactly the same. Manifesting through your subconscious mind is simply thinking, “Because I believe this will happen, it will happen.” It’s as straightforward as thinking, “I’m in a loving relationship with him, so I will be in a loving relationship with him.” That’s it.
Their profession, status, or perceived social position? None of it matters. Just decide to be your most loving, loveable self with this person. When those voices pop up saying, “Someone like you? He’d never even notice you!” — that’s just ego chatter. Ignore it completely and step into being the version of yourself who’s already in that beautiful, loving relationship!
With love, Iruru
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