Reader Questions #21: When Friends Ask About Your Love Life After You’ve Already Decided

Hello, this is Iruru. Manifesting desires with the subconscious mind is simple – you just need to decide your thoughts. But even when you’re trying to stay committed to your chosen thoughts, what should you say when friends ask about your current situation? What do you all do?

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I’ve decided that my guy and I are lovey-dovey! And when I feel like I might waver, I remember Meguru-san’s “Don’t you dare move a single step!” (※1) video, and I’ve been getting better at focusing on myself in a good way.

But when a close friend asks, “So what happened with that guy?” I feel conflicted because nothing has changed in reality yet. I don’t want to lie, but I also don’t want to feel bad by saying “Nothing’s happening.” What should I do in situations like this?

What Should You Tell Your Friends?

For subconscious manifestation, at HOME REN we say “You think it, so it becomes reality.” So whether it’s getting back together, unrequited love, or whatever – if you want to be lovey-dovey with that guy, you simply decide on the thought “I’m lovey-dovey with him.” Then, day by day, savor the happiness in front of you, ignore your ego, and stay committed to the thoughts you want to manifest.

But even when you’re thinking you’re lovey-dovey with him, in reality friends might ask you, “So what’s happening with him now?” I understand feeling confused about how to answer at times like that.

Since It’s Already Fulfilled, You Don’t Want to Say “I’m Not Lovey-Dovey with Him Yet”!?

At HOME REN, we say “Once you decide your thoughts, be the version of yourself who has already manifested it from this very moment.” So if you decide you’re lovey-dovey with him, you’re already lovey-dovey with him right now.

This leads some people to think, “Then if friends ask me something, since I’m already lovey-dovey, I have to say we’re lovey-dovey even if it hasn’t manifested in reality yet, right?” And they feel resistance to this.

 

The conclusion is that there’s no single correct answer – “you can answer however you want.” The only point that matters is staying committed to your fulfilled thoughts. How you answer is entirely up to what you want to do.

For example, if I wanted to get back together with someone but it hadn’t manifested in reality yet, I’d find it hard to tell friends “We’re lovey-dovey now,” and I’d feel like I was lying, which would actually distance me from my fulfilled self. So I wouldn’t say that. Instead, I’d chat with friends normally, having fun as usual, while separately maintaining that I’m lovey-dovey with him.

How You Answer Has Nothing to Do with Manifestation!

But this is just what I’d do because that’s what I want to do – it’s not the “correct” answer. Please ask yourself what kind of presence and what kind of responses would help you feel most like your fulfilled self.

I think there are many other possible approaches too. If you don’t really want to talk about it in the first place, your friends might sense that and not ask much about it. This is the same as questions about whether you can take action after deciding your thoughts – no matter how you act, as long as you’ve decided your thoughts, the results won’t change. The important thing is simply keeping your thoughts unwavering and decided – that’s all.

No matter what friends ask you, just decide to boldly be in the state of your fulfilled self!

※1: Here’s the video mentioned in the question

Here’s the “Don’t you dare move a single step!” video mentioned in the question. I recommend it for people who find themselves wavering even after deciding their thoughts!