Any kind of love will come true 100%!
By the way, is it possible to deal with infidelity, which is generally considered bad, and reconciliation, which is often said to not work out? Of course that's impossible, right? I hear a voice say, but I say it again. Any kind of love can come true.
The pitfalls of adulterous love
However, there are big pitfalls to adultery. First of all, it is generally considered ``bad,'' and when you first talk to people about it, they often deny it. Even in romance books, there are many stories where people quit because it's not good and move on to the next thing. If your case goes to court, you could end up losing money financially.
But the first thing I want you to think about is
What do I want to do? Am I happy?
The biggest pitfall of having an affair is that your feelings and opinions are easily influenced by the people around you who say, ``Absolutely not!'' Outside opinions are too strong.
For example, if you have a boyfriend who likes apples, you don't often say, ``Your boyfriend likes apples, so you should stop!''
However, if the other person is married, I tend to think, ``It's definitely time to stop!'' That's because according to conventional wisdom, it's an absolutely correct opinion.
There are many reasons why adultery is considered wrong, but I will not discuss them here. In terms of finding love, the reason why infidelity is so difficult is because of the many reasons why it's not good.
It's easy for ``me'' to feel like ``It's not good for me to be having an affair.I can't win this love.
This is where the trap of adultery lies.
Why do you have an affair?
Also, some people who have affairs have a tendency to repeat them over and over again. What I want you to remember here is that the events that are happening are (may be) happening because you want them to happen.
If you are having a hard time because of an affair, it may be painful to think that you are the one who caused it, but please think about it for a moment, even if it's just a "might".
There may be some benefit to having an affair.
For example, you may be afraid of getting into a deep relationship with one person, or you may be afraid of getting married, so you choose someone you don't want to get married to.
And if this continues, even after the current painful relationship ends, there is a strong possibility that the same thing will happen again. So, if you think that you are currently in a difficult love life,
I suggest to think that what is going on inside me that caused this?
It's okay if you don't have an answer right away, or if you don't think you're the one who caused the painful relationship.
Maybe this is what I was looking for? If you just think about it, things will actually get better.
What is the goal of an affair?
Another reason why it is difficult for love affairs to go well is that it is difficult to set goals.
In a normal relationship, the goal tends to be to get married, start a family, and live together. Putting aside my opinion as to whether that's okay, it's clear and easy to understand, and it's up to me.
However, in the case of infidelity, the goal is for the other person to get divorced, and in that case, it is easy to blame the other person because the goal is not their own. And the energy of blaming the other person comes back to you. It's a negative chain.
Rather than being happy ``if I get divorced'' or ``if I get married,'' the goal is actually now.
Can I be the happiest I am in my current state?
Let's focus on that. If you feel that your partner is having an affair, it's too painful to think about it, then you may want to stop. However, if you absolutely love it and can't stop, then try to make the most of your time together and make it the happiest.
If you think it's impossible, it's probably not possible even if you divorce or get married. If you can be happy now, the happiest things may happen to you one after another! (Iruru)
