Get rid of the stress of not having confidence!
To make your desires come true subconsciously, ``Because you think so, it will happen.'' That's all. But I think there's nothing better than being confident. Because being confident means believing in yourself. I thought that because I believed in myself, I was able to think without saying anything, and once I thought about it, I could trust myself and leave it alone. Therefore, we will deliver this article in three parts with the theme of escaping from ``lack of self-confidence''.
I lack confidence in myself!
Hello. This is Iruru.
Are you confident in yourself?
Before, in this episode,
I wrote about my lack of confidence due to my lack of love experience, but in the past I was not only insecure about love, but also about my appearance, personality, and everything else, and I didn't feel like I could do well in love. There was a time when I didn't.
I don't think I look cute in the selfies I take, and of course I don't have a nice boyfriend. Even if I try to love myself or give affirmations, the negative voice inside me says, ``I'm cute and I'm in a wonderful relationship...but I'm not cute and I'm not in love at all!!!'' It was so loud, it was like I was making a negative affirmation. Besides love, I can't do the job I like, and my relationships at work aren't good either. At that time, my life seemed far from my ideal life, and I felt tired every day.
How do you gain confidence?
When I look back on how I got out of that situation, I think a big part of it was getting out of the loop of ``confidence that comes from doing something''.
When I didn't have confidence, I thought, ``I'll gain confidence because I can do something,'' and ``I'll gain confidence because I've experienced something.'' for example…
・Because I was able to do a big job
・Because I had a wonderful date with a wonderful boyfriend
・Because we had a wonderful marriage
・Because I can now earn a lot of money
Being able to do something gives you confidence. I haven't accomplished anything, so I don't have any "confidence." I thought so.
But this is all "outside" confidence. It's not your "inner" self, but Haribote's "confidence."
If this is the case, what will happen if, for example, the job fails? What will happen if I break up with him? What will happen if I get divorced? I end up being confused by everything on the outside.
External self-confidence is a flimsy self-confidence that can easily disappear if something on the outside disappears for some reason.
Instead, just being yourself is truly wonderful.
``Confidence'' is something that you can have without any basis.
From the perspective of the subconscious mind, baseless confidence is the strongest.
And even from a subconscious point of view, that baseless confidence is the strongest.
I have told you that the only rule when you want to make your desires come true in your subconscious mind is, ``Because I think so, it will happen''.
"Because I think so, it becomes so."
The only basis is what you think. There is no basis for it to be true just because you think so! Some people may think so, but as long as you are the creator of your own life, it can only happen because ``you'' think that way.
I want you to be confident in your thoughts without any grounds, and I want you to be confident in your thoughts without any grounds.
For those who lack confidence right now,
I think there are some people who don't think it makes sense even if you say something like that. I really felt that way too. Unless you're completely convinced by baseless confidence, I wouldn't force you to recommend it, so I hope you'll just ignore it.
If you want to gain a little more confidence but don't really know what to do, start by writing down what you think is great about yourself or asking a friend.
When you receive a compliment, instead of saying, "That's not true," try saying, "Thank you." It's a good idea to stop being modest. The point is not the external confidence that you can do something, but the confidence that you are who you are.
When I lacked confidence, 'The Courage to Be Disliked' made me feel at ease.
When I felt like I lacked self-confidence, I read the super bestseller ``The Courage to Be Disliked,'' which influenced me.
This book made me realize that I had to live up to the expectations of others, that I needed to be recognized by others, and that I had to look inward for my own worth.
It gave me an opportunity to realize that maybe it's okay to be myself, and it gave me an opportunity to think that it's okay to be who I am, rather than just being confident.
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If you can feel confident without any conditions, you'll be the best!
