Hello. This is Iruru.
Today, I would like to share some of the questions I received on the consultation form that I thought would be helpful to many people.
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It started out as a physical relationship with her, but I love her and want to be her boyfriend and girlfriend.
It's different from getting back together, but is it possible for them to become boyfriend and girlfriend based on their physical relationship?There are various romantic psychology recommendations, such as not meeting him even if he invites you, or not contacting him, but I love him so much that I want to meet him and contact him if he invites me.
I want to make my dreams come true by contacting and meeting each other.
I want to transition from a physical relationship to being boyfriend and girlfriend.
It started with a physical relationship, and when we met, we went straight to the hotel. However, we often receive inquiries from people who say they want to be a normal boyfriend and girlfriend who goes on normal dates.
If you're in a physical relationship, it means that you're seen as a woman, and even if it's just for your body, you want to meet her. So, for me, I feel like they have a connection, and at first glance I feel like they could easily become boyfriend and girlfriend, or rather, aren't they already boyfriend and girlfriend? I think so, but I'm sure there are many points where I think that's not the case.
And when I read the email, I realized that the person who was thinking the most about not being able to become a boyfriend or girlfriend was the person who contacted me.
If I get a call, I'll come see you. Is it okay if we meet?
In the realm of relationship psychology, you occasionally come across advice like, "He contacted me late at night, and it seems like he's only interested in something physical. In such cases, you should refuse!" Some people might read such advice and wonder, "Does that mean I shouldn't meet him?" Rather than concluding that meeting is out of the question, it's essential to pay attention to whether you are compromising yourself by thinking, "I have to meet him now, or I might not get the chance, and I need to accommodate him."
More important than him is me.
When a desire comes true subconsciously, it's just ``because you think so, it will happen''.
And you are the one who thinks so.
The reality, like what he said to me or what he contacted you, is something outside. You just want you to cherish your own thoughts and be yourself without being influenced by outside things.
And when you become the person you want to be, I want you to cherish the comfortable life you like outside of him. I want them to cherish the small joys like eating delicious sweets, drinking coffee, and playing with friends.
So, if you get a call from him late at night when you're thinking, "I'm already sleepy," you don't have to say, "If I don't meet you now, I won't be able to meet you! Let's jump up and go see him!" is. Even if you don't do that, as long as you're able to date him properly, it's fine. It's okay if you don't rush and adjust to him.
Of course, if you're not pushing yourself too hard and you feel like you really want to meet him, I think you should go and meet him openly. As long as your mind isn't forcing it, either is fine.
And if you want to become a boyfriend and girlfriend, first try to imagine yourself being a boyfriend and girlfriend with him from now on. Really, that's it.
Do you consider yourself inferior to him?
Actually, there was a time when I was in a relationship that started from a physical relationship and was more tailored to him, but at that time I just realized that I was the one on the lower end of the relationship. think.
I didn't have confidence in myself and I didn't have the confidence that he would love me, so I did my best to fit in with him. It was quite exhausting.
Don't try to force yourself to fit in with him; you're beautiful just by being yourself, so if you feel like you're pushing yourself a bit, just take a breather.
I also want you to follow him and take a step back from your cramped self and focus on the small happiness around you. I think if you take care of yourself in this way, you will be able to love freely and equally.
