Hello. This is Iruru.
Today, I would like to share some of the questions I received on the consultation form that I thought would be helpful to many people.
(The content of the question has been changed as appropriate to the extent that individuals are not identified)
From T
Watch the video and I'm in love with him! However, he has a new girlfriend.
I have a girlfriend, but she occasionally exchanges emails and I've started receiving phone calls, which makes me happy, but on the other hand, I'm worried that she's just trying to keep me even though she has a girlfriend. Masu.Is it possible for me to get back together in this situation?
I want to get back together, but he has a new girlfriend...
She wants to get back together, but he has already found a new girlfriend and seems to be living with her.
It's a shock to hear that... I can totally understand the feeling of having all kinds of bad delusions.
I think the point of this consultation is well expressed in the sentence, "Will I be able to get back together in this situation?"
Is my love difficult?
If you get back together or have unrequited love, and you don't understand his situation or suddenly lose contact with him, your ego tends to come out and think, ``Maybe he doesn't like me after all.''
However, if you want to achieve love subconsciously, just ``because you think so, it will happen''.
Just decide what you want to be. Once you decide, from now on, you will become the person who made that decision come true. That's all.
It has nothing to do with the other person or their current situation.
Even if I say that, I think some people will be confused. for example,
-But when we broke up, he said he didn't want to see me again.
・He said that his policy was not to get back together.
・Maybe he doesn't have a good impression of me anymore because we fought a lot.
・He currently has a loving girlfriend and looks happy as they take pictures together on SNS.
・He hasn't been able to get back together for years, so he might not be able to get back together again.
etc.
I'm sure there are people who think of various things that are likely to be believable, but they ignore all of them.
What happened up until now, what happened in the past, his past relationships, etc. really have nothing to do with me, so I don't think about them anymore. I just want them to look at what they want to become and what they want to achieve, and focus on that.
If you do that, I think you won't have to ask yourself, ``Can I get back together in this situation?''
Because it doesn't really matter what the situation is.
It doesn't matter if he has a new girlfriend, if she can't contact him, if they haven't gotten back together for years, it doesn't matter, she just has to make up her mind now.
The question ``Will I be able to get back together even under these circumstances?'' seems to be a hidden thought, ``I wonder if I, who have been in such a difficult and hopeless love, will be able to get back together.It doesn't seem possible.'' I feel like it.
More than anything, it is you who has decided that something may not come true.
Just keep focusing on your thoughts rather than your ego.
I totally understand why you feel like your love life is difficult.
Even if you can objectively view the love lives of your friends and other people, your own love life may not be the same.
However, if you want your love to come true, all you have to do is cherish your dreams that have come true.
All you have to do is ignore the ego that keeps coming up and keep focusing on what's important.
Even if you make up your mind, your ego will instantly come out thinking, ``It might not work out.''
It doesn't matter if it comes out, just ignore it and just come back to your thoughts.
And once you've made up your mind, there's nothing left to do.
So, I want you to do something that you enjoy every day, increase your hobbies, eat delicious food...I want you to enjoy the small happiness that is right in front of you every day.
Will the ego go away if we get back together?
And we got back together quickly! I achieved love! If that's the case, will ego disappear? That's not the case.
Even if you fall in love with someone or are married, ego will always come out.
On the other hand, the more things are going well, the more they will come out.
・He's so kind to me now, but maybe he's cheating on me.
・I wonder if it's okay to be this happy. I don't think this will last long
・He's smiling, but I wonder if he's really enjoying it too.
・You didn't seem to have fun yesterday. Maybe you don't like me that much anymore
And so on... Even if things are going well,because everything is going well, ego comes out as much as possible.
If you decide to continue being who you are, then of course this ego will be ignored!
If you can get past your ego now, you should be able to get past your ego that will come up after you get back together.
From now on, become yourself who has achieved love, put aside your ego, and start valuing your own thoughts!
