Hello. I am Iruru.
Subconscious wish fulfillment is Because you think so, it becomes so.
When a person who wants to get married decides to "think", he/she says, "I decided to think that I am in love with him!
In my mind, I am in love with him, he proposed to me, and I am happy!" And so on.
But in reality, when you arrange a date and meet him,
I feel like he's cold.... I've made up my mind, but I don't have a feeling he's going to propose. It's not realistic at all! Is it really going to work out like this?
There are people who consult with us because they are going back and forth between their feelings and reality.
Have you ever had such an experience? This time, I would like to write about a situation for such people, when they feel like they are going to be blurred by reality even though they have made up their mind.
Is it easy to blur the "desire" to change the reality in front of us?
When I look at your consultations, I find that even if you have made up your mind, when reality tends to shake you up, it's often times when you want to ask him to do something or change, or you can't stop him (reality) in front of you right away. I think it's easier to feel like ``he hasn't changed'' when you actually meet him when you're trying to change him, and it's easier to get confused.
For example, let's say you decide, ``My boyfriend will propose to me!'' However, when I actually met him, I looked at the reality of whether he would propose or not, and at that point I went back to reality. You might end up thinking, "You're not going to propose! I already made up my mind!"
How to decide what you want to try when reality is inevitably bothering you.
Thoughts determine what lies ahead.
LoveSync Attraction's YouTube also recommends ``deciding ahead'' when making decisions. The good thing about deciding your future is that once you decide, you have already achieved your goal, so you can change your current situation.I think that You can leave the entire process to your subconscious mind until it comes true.
For example, suppose you think, "He doesn't contact me very often, so I would like him to contact me so much that I don't need him.
But if you get to know each other better and become more in love, you might think, "I would be happier if he moved in with me," or "I might not need to hear from him if I can talk to him every day. Don't you think so? If you are further down the road, you may not care whether you have contact or not, but just be in love and be happy together.
I would like you to decide what you want to be and think, "What kind of person would I be if I did that? I want you to think about how you will be when that happens. I don't know the process by which it will come true from now on, because it is beyond the future. It doesn't matter what he says or what kind of situation he is in. The only thing that matters is the goal, and since I've decided on that, I leave everything else to my subconscious. If you think like that, don't you think you will be able to relax no matter what happens in front of you?
Thoughts decide who you are
I also recommend that you decide what kind of "you" you will be when the thought comes true, with yourself as the subject of the thought. For example, if you decide that you are "the one he is in love with," I would like you to think about what kind of person you will be at that time.
For example, "I am at peace, I am calm, I get along well with my friends, and my work is going well. If you are not good at thinking in detail, please try to think of something like, "I am at peace, calm, getting along with my friends, and doing well at work; my diet is going well; I am wearing that brand of dress I have been thinking about and going to a nice restaurant with my boyfriend. If you are not good at thinking in detail, try to imagine "me looking nice and smiling anyway! or even roughly, is of course OK.
Then, from now on, try to be that way as much as you can. For example, there are many things you can do right now about "yourself," such as going on a diet or smiling, right? In this way, try to do what you can do now while finding the "fulfilled self image" that feels right to you.
Even if you don't have him in front of you in reality right now, I think that realizing "how you are in love with him" is a very positive thing for your life, and I think it will also help you to be your fulfilled self without becoming one with your ego when your ego comes out again after you are in love with him! I think it will be very positive for my life.
If it's a blur, should you not see him?
If you get confused when you meet him in real life, is it better not to meet him? We often receive this question. In this regard, either is fine. If you want to meet, you can meet, and if you think it would be easier not to meet, then I think it's better not to meet.
Personally, when things don't go well with a guy I was dating, and even though I'm supposed to like him, we end up fighting each other, I break up with him, stop seeing him, and leave it to my subconscious to decide what will happen from here, so I don't see him.
There was a time when I was concentrating on adjusting my mind. At that time, a new boyfriend came along who matched my ideals, and I was happy as a result. There is no one better than the other, so listen to your feelings, ask yourself what you want to do, and then decide.
Iruru♡
