Your Mind, Your Choice — Always

Hello, this is Meguru.

I’ve put together this blog based on what we discussed in May’s Voicy episode:
“At the end of the day, you’re always the one choosing what to think.”

Here’s how your subconscious mind works:
Whatever you consistently think becomes your reality.
In love, this means: when you truly believe “we’re together,” that’s exactly what manifests.
So your job is simple: decide to hold the thought “We’re together.”

Here’s what matters most — you’re the one choosing that thought.
You’re the thinker behind it all.
If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you’ve probably heard me say this countless times —
but it’s that important.

You get to decide: “We’re together.” That’s everything!!

When you think “we’re together” — that thought originates from you.
Without you thinking it, nothing can even start.

In this way, it’s not dramatic to say:
The moment you think it, it becomes real for you.
You’re literally shaping your reality.

Let’s say you and your person broke up, but you want them back.
Then a friend tells you, “They’ve completely moved on.”
Or a psychic says, “You two just weren’t meant to be.”
How does that land?

Pretty devastating, right?

When someone says they’ve moved on, you might think,
“So I mean nothing to them now…”
Or if someone says you’re incompatible,
“Maybe I should just accept that we’re over.”

Either way hurts.

Friends, psychics, family members, coworkers…
Even those online articles claiming “Your chances of reconciliation are only XX%” —
These are all outside voices.

And these outside voices can really throw you off course.
They sound so authoritative, so final.

Imagine seeing a tweet that says,
“Wanting your ex back is just pathetic,”
and it has thousands of likes.
How would that feel?

Probably terrible.
You might start wondering:
“Am I crazy for still wanting this? Maybe everyone’s right and I should just let go…”

“We’re together” or “It’s over” — only *you* get to make that call.

But here’s what’s really happening:
Who’s the one thinking, “Maybe I should just let go…”?

That’s right — it’s you.

You’re also the one who can think:
“Even if people think I’m crazy for wanting this, I know what feels right to me.
So I’m choosing to stay in the knowing: ‘We’re together.'”

Either way, you’re the one choosing.

You’re the one who decides:
“It’s over.”
Or,
“We’re going to be together.”

Nobody else gets to make that decision for you.

Even when outside opinions try to convince you it’s hopeless —
you’re still the one who chooses whether to accept that and walk away.

Or,
You can hear what others say and still choose love.
Either way, the final decision is always yours.

Even when you feel completely swayed by what others think —
you’re still the one making the ultimate choice.

So even if you think,
“She said something horrible — how dare she!”
— ultimately, you’re the one who decided:
“Well, if she’s saying that, maybe I really should give up on them.”

Recognizing this is everything.

Even when it feels like everyone else is controlling your decisions,
the reality is:
You chose to give up because of their influence.

This is why your power to choose your thoughts is so incredible.

No matter what’s happening around you, you’re always making the final call.

Once you really get this — that you’re always the one deciding —
you’ll start to see just how much power you actually have.

You choose your thoughts.
You’re always the one with the final say.

That realization alone?
It can completely transform your life.

In this episode, Meguru and Iruru have a conversation together on Voicy.