♡Love is about being devoted to the other person. Love often involves cheating. Both are “correct for that person”

Do you ever make assumptions based on these “superfluous notions”?

This seems like a plausible reason, but it's completely different, isn't it?

・Don't cheat, just focus on him/her! Are there any number of people like that?
・Aren't there people who grow attached to you the longer you've known them?
・There are a lot of people who have decreased the frequency of contact because they feel safe with their boyfriend/girlfriend, right?

That is,

Love is full of cheating
too
Love is something that focuses on the other person

Both are correct.

This is because it is the "truth" for the person who set it up.

To give an example, a long time ago, Meguru loved romantic dramas with twists and turns.
What happened as a result of watching too much of that?

Love = something that two people should overcome together with the disasters that strike again and again.''

This mysterious concept became ingrained in me like a belief.

Then something like this happens.

・When I got into a fight with boyfriend A, my homemade sandwich was thrown out of the car.

(Disaster → Anger! → He says sorry → Happy ending)

・When I was with boyfriend B, my ex-girlfriend suddenly called me and cried and said, ``I don't want B and Meguru to get together.''

(An incident occurs → Talk to him → Happy ending)

・My mother objected to our relationship, saying, ``I think A-kun is a really good girl, but I don't think he's a good fit for Meguru.''

(Severe shock! → I tearfully break up with him → I get back together and have a happy ending)

　Things like that happened a lot, and I was confused every time, but it was nothing.

Meguru's definition of love (two people overcoming repeated disasters together) was simply reflected in reality.

When I realized this, I was shocked at how much I had made it myself, but then I realized that there may actually be many people doing something similar to this.

If you have the idea that love always involves cheating, find reasons to reinforce that idea.

Ideas have a habit of trying to reinforce them.

「Love always involves cheating」

When people with this mindset hear that their friend's boyfriend cheated on them, they immediately shove that information into the ``Love is all about cheating, right?'' box, as if to say, ``I knew it,'' or ``I saw it.'' Masu.

 

On the other hand, when she hears information that is the exact opposite of cheating, such as, ``Mr. A seems to be extremely in love even though they've been married for five years,'' he brilliantly ignores it and says, ``Yes, that's an exception.''

"Love is about being devoted to the other person."

People who have this idea are the opposite. When I hear, ``Mr. A seems to be extremely in love even though he's been married for five years,'' he immediately responds with ``I knew it!'' and ``That's why I told you so,'' and shoves that information into the ``In love, you're all about the other person, right?'' box. Masu. On the other hand, when someone hears the information that their friend's boyfriend cheated on them, they simply ignore it and say, "Yes, that's an exception."

Do you understand?

People who have the idea that ``love always involves cheating'' will focus on events that prove that fact, and people who have the idea that ``love is about being devoted to the other person'' will focus on things that prove that fact. In other words, we focus on gathering events and reinforcing our "correct ideas (for ourselves)."

People only see what they want to see.

Let's throw away the ideas that are restrictive to us now

Love is full of cheating
and
Love is something where you are devoted to the other person.

They are "truth" to the person who set it up.

What should you do if you realize that you have unnecessary beliefs like, ``No, love doesn't have to involve cheating.''

Once you accept that fact and say, ``I thought love always involved cheating,'' it's okay.

It's so easy that it's shockingly easy, right?

However, as the saying goes, ``ideas disappear once you become aware of them,'' and once you truly become aware of them, they disappear.
When you say, “No, it won’t go away easily, right?”

"thank you"
"I love you"
"sorry"
"forgive me"

Try Ho'oponopono, which is chanting in your mind like a spell ♡

 

One more thing,

People who want to get back together just need to get back together, so there is no need to start looking for ideas. The world of searching for ideas could expand, or we could create rules that say things don't come true unless you find an idea. So, for example, in a situation like this.

"Love is something that makes you cheat"
↓
"He doesn't cheat, right...?"
↓
"He's been acting weird lately..."
↓
“I cheated after all.”

Did ideas that were inconvenient to me create an inconvenient world? Only when you realize this, just throw it away!

That “common sense” may actually be something you pick up somewhere else, but it doesn’t really matter.

Sometimes the ideas that we have worked so hard to strengthen become just common sense.

But if you think about where you got that common sense,

There are romantic dramas with too many twists and turns, anime where perseverance is a virtue, and things like TV and society saying that's what family members say, all of which make you wonder, ``Is that really the case?''

Surprisingly, there are quite a few cases in which the anime that I watched when I was little and whose main character was a ``heroine who goes through many trials'' has a strong influence on me.

There is a pattern where the little princess Sarah was wealthy, but one day her parents suddenly fell into poverty due to an unexpected accident, bankruptcy, death, etc.

From that point on, I accidentally

In life, if you persevere and keep trying, you will be rewarded someday!

and the idea becomes a belief.

However, if you realize that you don't need it, it's a "strict idea" for you now, so you don't need to hold onto it forever ♡

♡Meguru♡