Do you ever worry about not receiving replies on LINE?
This is often one of the top topics of discussion.
That's why it bothers me so much that I don't get a reply.
It's been a long time (though it was a long time ago).
From Meguru's point of view...
When “no contact” becomes too sensitive,
Is it okay to separate "facts" and "interpretations"? That's what it feels like♡
Why do you care so much?
This is something I touched on in the video, but I'm worried about not getting any replies on LINE.
I have contact with you = you like me
No contact = you don't like me
I think it's because we unconsciously associate it.
If you make such a connection, it would be a big deal if they didn't contact you.
When I talk about this, people sometimes say things like this.
Even in such a short conversation, Mr. A's ``no contact = I don't like you'' clearly stands out and doesn't seem to be going away easily.
When I think about it in terms of my past self, it's true that I also strongly associated the idea that "no contact = I don't like you."
I understand that uneasy feeling. I feel a heavy feeling in my chest, and when anxiety causes anxiety, the feeling becomes heavy, and the haziness never goes away, which I really don't like.
Looking back at that time, it was like this. ↓
No contact → I feel anxious
It hasn't arrived yet → I'm getting more anxious
It hasn't arrived yet → I received more calls before! get angry
It's still not coming → I'm really sad that I haven't heard from you...
It's still not coming → I guess you're tired of me already
There's still a long way to go → Maybe he's busy with the girl he likes...
I haven't heard from him at all → He doesn't like me anymore. Did I do something?
"Are you tired of me?" It's completely delusional (///ω///)
For some reason, the more bad delusions you have about the other person, the more lively they become.
Don't make me anxious.
Don't make me feel sad.
The fact that I feel this strongly means that behind it,there is a lurking feeling that ``I want you to feel safe.
If it were me in the past, I might have felt like, ``I want you to be my top priority (I'm being ignored).''
Who is adding “interpretation” to “facts” that are not communicated?
"No contact" is "just a fact".
No contact, no contact.
Just it.
However, when we add an ``interpretation'' to this, it becomes meaningful ``for me''.
No contact = you don't like me
Like this.I'm not exaggerating, but this ``interpretation'' creates my life.
No contact = you don't like me
⇒Maybe someone else could do it
⇒I'm being neglected
⇒What should I do if I get dumped?
⇒Well, it's been cold lately.
⇒Well, today I heard from a friend that he was walking with another woman.
⇒There was someone I liked after all! Was it true that I was number two? ?
That is a parade of powerful delusions.
On the other hand, No contact = No contact
People who view this in a neutral way,
No contact
⇒Now that I think about it, I haven't heard from you.
⇒Are you busy?
⇒Hmm. I don't know
⇒Well, okay.
This is the best I can think of.
The only possible interpretation is, "Are you busy?"
I didn't have any wild delusions and just carried on as usual, and then I got a call from the other side.
Please contact us here. There's no particular problem there lol
Even the same ``no contact'' situation can have so many different ``interpretations.''
No contact = do you like me? ?
That's why I say this in the "LoveSync Attraction" YouTube video,
When you think of the full set of ``no contact'' = ``I don't like you'',
Try thinking vaguely that "no contact" = "maybe it doesn't mean I don't like you."
In other words,
"No contact" = "I don't like you" is a strong link.
You could even say that there is a strong connection between "no contact" and "being liked."
“I got a call” = “I like you”
“No contact” = “She likes me” But that’s okay, right?
You may think, "Are you an idiot?", but since you are the one giving your "interpretation" to the facts, basically any interpretation is OK♡
If so, why not just interpret it as you see fit?
And what should have been solidified by ``sad evidence that people don't like me'' starts to show all the ``happy evidence that people like me''.
It's strange, but if you think about it, it's not really true.
But it happened that way because I interpreted it that way. You could say it's just that!
Of course, the subconscious mind says, ``Because I think so, it will happen.'' Therefore, ``I think that I am in love with him, so I will be in love with him.'' All you need to do is to feel like you're in love with him, regardless of whether or not he's in contact with you.
♡Meguru♡
