♡That “past” trauma has nothing to do with “now”!

It’s been a while since I last saw Meguru.

While I'm being chased by the new coronavirus and exposing my shame in videos, I've been neglecting to update...(Lie)

There are people who are waiting for the update,

I love you all so much.
Thanks so much!

This time too, I would like to put my heart and soul into writing it lightly♡
It's long, but here you go!

If you want to get back together, how do you view the past?

Yeah, about the breakup and what happened before that.

There was a time when we were so close and had so much fun.
She started venting her fears and frustrations.
Things didn't go well.
There were more fights.
In the end, we lost touch with each other.

I think there are times when I remember things from the past at key points.

I was asked one after another about that ``past.''
To summarize the contents,

Do you think past pain and trauma will prevent you from realizing your dreams?

If you dig deeper into this story,

“Does the past even exist?”

It comes down to.

Meguru has been extremely mysterious about her "past" for many years.

Knowing your subconscious mind,

Right now, this moment is all we have.
There is no "past" or "future".

I think that story will come out as a set.

But somehow, doesn't it seem like the ``past'' ``exists''?

I can remember what I thought was good for me and what I thought was bad because it actually happened.
In the first place, we broke up because of various things in the "past"...

If you think so, please read the rest ♡

Contents

The “past” is brought out by me in the “now”
Let's focus on the world we will create in the future rather than "what happened in the past" ♡
Relationships with parents and beliefs from childhood are irrelevant to “now”
A child who was unable to help his mother tries to help her with a boyfriend.

The “past” is brought out by me in the “now”

We live in the moment of ``now'',

``Right now'' I turn on my smartphone and read this blog.

Drinking coffee now

``Right now'' I'm on LINE with my friends

Cooking food now

Like, living in the now, now, now, now.

During this time, when does the "past" come into play?

``Right now,'' I turn on my smartphone and read this blog.
The “past” comes into play: “Oh, we often listened to music together on his smartphone.”

``Now'' while drinking coffee
The “past” comes into play: “Oh, I used to drink coffee with him a lot.”

“Now” while LINE with friends
【ah! ! ! Even though I was on LINE with him every day...the "past" of "tears" started creeping in.

``Now'' while making dinner
【ah! ``I made him a good meal.'' The ``past'' comes into play.

After all, you understand that the starting point is “now”, right?

The ``past'' enters into the ``now'', this moment.

“Now”, at this moment, there is essentially no “past”, right?
Because,
“Right now” I am reading this blog.

``Right now,'' at this moment when you're typing a text to someone on LINE, there's no ``past,'' right?

That is,

The "past" exists only in your head.

No matter how real the experience is that you can vividly remember it, it only exists in your head.

So, why do I feel like I'm reliving the "past" I've already experienced?

Because ``now'' you are pulling out that ``past'' yourself.
There is nothing else.

If you look at this the other way,

The "past" does not exist unless you bring it out.

"No!! Of course!! That time!! At the restaurant!! He said he loved me!"

You may think so, but it only appears as if it exists because you have pulled out that ``past'' in the ``now,'' but if you had not pulled it out, that ``past'' would not exist.

I have a photo with him
I still have the receipt from when I ate at a restaurant with him.
I still have LINE with him

You might say, but this...

It only exists because you tried to pull out that "past" in the "now"

If you forcefully link it to "If you think so, then it will happen," the process from "I thought about things with my past boyfriend" to "Photos, receipts, LINE traces," etc., will now become true. It just appeared.

(Ah, ta, ma, oh, ka, shi, i. I don't mind if you think that lol)

Let's focus on the world we will create in the future rather than "what happened in the past" ♡

That's why, regarding my "past," I felt hurt when things were said to me, things like this were done to me, etc.

Those who just barely come out,because

I'm just going out of my way to bring out the things that hurt me and the things that happened to me ``right now, I want to say that

since we're in the "now", isn't it okay to feel good about it?

I think experts sometimes say, ``What happened in the past is irrelevant.''

In fact, it's "irrelevant". Unless you pull it out and connect it yourself.

If “that thing from the past” inevitably comes up and it’s painful,

you know that there's a reason why I want to bring it out.

It doesn't just come out naturally.

You are half-forcibly pulling him out.

So, once I tried to shed some light on that ``thing from the past,'' I thought, ``Why are you bringing it out so much?''

I guess so? I think it's a good idea to ask yourself.

If you notice that it's being pulled out, it's okay because it's mostly gone by the time you notice.

Well, I think it's Meguru though.

If “I think so, so it will happen”, I could create as much as I want from this moment on, isn't it better not to bring out the past? and.

It's not just the unpleasant past.
Honestly, I don't need a good past.

After all, all you have to do is create even better things from now on.

Relationships with parents and beliefs from childhood are irrelevant to “now”

Regarding the "past", I received the following consultation from a person named Mogu-san. (Thank you, Mogu-san♡)

If we don't erase or rewrite the negative beliefs we formed during our childhood with our parents, reality will never change."
"If I believe that I am unlovable, reality will not change."

This is something that counselors and others often say to us, but what does that actually mean? It was something like this.

Speaking from conclusion,

There is no relationship between the past and the present reality.

But as a Meguru, I understand Mogu-san's feelings.

It is said that negative thoughts about what your parents did to you will have a huge impact on your life later on.
It is sometimes said that if you grow up with the feeling of not being loved by your parents, the reality of not being loved will unfold.

In fact, especially in the mother-daughter relationship, there are many cases where the mother thought she was loving towards her daughter, but the daughter grows up feeling like she was not loved by her mother.

Of course, Meguru was no exception ♡

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A child who was unable to help his mother tries to help her with a boyfriend.

A mother is an absolute presence for a small child, so it's only natural.

If my mom looks lonely, I wonder if she's feeling lonely because of me?

If her mom is angry, is she angry because of me? Is it because my grades were bad?

Even though the mother's mood only changes from time to time, the daughter connects with her each time, and eventually,

「I wasn't of any use to my mother」

It is said that some people grow up with this feeling.

The daughter, who was unable to help her mother, tries to help her mother by using a new person.

Yes, it's your boyfriend.

There are many stories of people getting along well with their boyfriends at first, but then things don't work out once they start caring for each other.

because I want to have the experience of being able to be of help again.
It's about repeating.

Due to this, you are trying to strengthen myself because I was not able to help my mother.

Well, this story also has nothing to do with ``now''.
Therefore, if there are people who operate as a rule, ``I had a lot of things happen with my mother, but I don't know anything about that,'' then that will just happen.

``Nothing to do with parents'' = ``past'' has no relation or influence in reality.

However, if you keep bringing up that ``past'' and thinking, ``The reason things don't go well is because my parents did that back then!!!'', it will become like an obsession and become a parent. Because of this, it keeps getting bigger and bigger.

As I have said many times,

Past” and “now” are unrelated.

Even if you say that, people who are still in a feud with their parents will probably never think so.
It can't be made irrelevant.

In that case, I think it would be better to shine a light on it and face it instead of pretending it never happened.
I can't help but pull out "that" over and over again,

“Were you disappointed at that time?”

"You're the kind of parent you can't forgive at all."

"Ah. I'm disgusted. I'll cut you off!"

I'll do my best to insult you like that, lol, and then it will disappear.

However, I don't even bother digging around here.
Instead of trying to deal with it on your own, you may want to seek help from a counselor.

However, speaking only from the perspective of the subconscious mind,

Past and now have nothing to do with each other

It becomes.

Mogu-san, did you get the answer?

Even if you want to get back together, if you decide that it doesn't matter, it will become a world where it doesn't matter, so don't worry about that ♡

However, even if you think that the past is irrelevant, if you are in pain, it would be unreasonable to decide that it is not relevant, so there is absolutely no need to ask an expert for help.

If your heart becomes lighter, anything is possible ♡