【027】Accept Your Emotions and Achieve Reconciliation | “You Become What You Believe” Works Even When You’re Not Positive 24/7

When someone says “I’m busy, can we wait?” doesn’t it feel like it’s all over?

When the person you were so in love with says that to your invitation for the next date, you’d naturally worry, “Are we going to break up without ever seeing each other again?”

Today’s story features a woman we’ll call M, who experienced exactly this situation. Yet, two months after their breakup, she successfully got back together with her ex.

What M taught us was this: “You become what you believe” works even when you’re not positive 24/7. The real lesson wasn’t about suppressing emotions, but about accepting all of them.

The Story of Rising from Rock Bottom to Reconciliation

M, a woman in her 30s, started dating a man she met through a matching app in September 2021. They had quite a peaceful relationship, but five months later, in February 2022, they broke up.

On the date right before the breakup, her boyfriend complimented her outfit—from M’s perspective, things felt “very lovey-dovey.” But everything changed in an instant when she received his LINE message in response to her invitation for the next date: “I’m pretty busy right now, so can we wait a bit?”

Her mind became consumed with anxiety: “What if we break up without ever meeting again?” And sadly, that’s exactly what happened.

February, the month of the breakup, was truly rock bottom for an entire month. She canceled plans with friends and could barely eat properly. Work was sluggish, and on top of everything else, she even had troubles with overseas business partners. Nothing seemed to be working out in her life.

The Shift in Consciousness That Came from Accepting Her Emotions

By March, M realized something crucial.

“Even if I were to meet him, I can’t show up looking like this—completely devastated.”

From that moment, her actions changed. She started fulfilling her own desires.

• She took a train for an hour and a half by herself to see the ocean
• She went to eat the curry she’d been craving
• She went to a comedy show and laughed her heart out

As she did these things, she gradually regained her cheerful self.

By the end of March, M reached out to her ex, and they were able to meet. However, he told her: “I need a bit more time to think about whether we should try again.”

Most people would have given up at that point, thinking “I guess it’s impossible after all.” But M was different.

How She Managed Her Ego Was the Key to Reconciliation

What was distinctive about M was how she dealt with negative emotions (her ego).

Whenever her ego came up, she would observe it objectively—thinking, “Oh, there goes my ego again”—and then accept all her feelings by thinking, “Well, it can’t be helped because I love him that much.”

M said:

“Even when my ego was acting up, I accepted my own feelings by thinking, ‘It’s natural because I love him that much.'”

This shift in consciousness became the turning point. One day, while walking toward the station, she suddenly felt the sensation: “Oh, I’m actually dating him right now.”

The Moment Reconciliation Happened

At the end of April, during Golden Week, her ex sent her a LINE message and they arranged to meet.

Just before the meeting, M felt anxious: “What if he clearly tells me today that getting back together is impossible?” But even that anxiety—she accepted it.

Then her ex said to her, “Let’s give it another try,” and they successfully reconciled.

A Message to Our Readers

M’s message to readers was particularly striking:

“‘You become what you believe’ works even when you’re not positive 24/7. Rather than spending all your time being positive, I learned that what truly matters is accepting all of your emotions without judgment.”

“Even during the date that led to our reconciliation, I had anxious thoughts like ‘What if he tells me today that getting back together is impossible?’ It’s okay to feel anxious, it’s okay to cry.”

As her words show, you don’t need to be perfectly positive all the time.

Summary: Accepting Your Emotions is the Fastest Path to Reconciliation

Here’s what we can learn from M’s experience:

• Accept all emotions, including the negative ones
• When your ego appears, observe it objectively and acknowledge it by thinking, “It can’t be helped because I love them that much”
• You don’t need to be positive 24/7
• Reclaim your energy by fulfilling your own desires

Rather than suppressing your emotions, accepting all of them might just be the shortest path to becoming “the version of me who is loved.”

You’re already loved, you know.

📺 Accept all your emotions and become “the version of me who is loved”—and reconcile!