【044】When Your Crush Gets Married, a Devoted Boyfriend Appears Instead

“My ex-boyfriend, whom I dated for four and a half years, got married”——even in the shock of that moment, her subconscious mind kept working. This time, based on R’s success story, let’s uncover what happens when you shift your focus from “a specific person” to “beloved me.”

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What Happened to R

R met her boyfriend when she was 19 years old and they dated and lived together for four and a half years. Though R had marriage on her mind, constant miscommunications led to their breakup. For years afterward, an ambiguous relationship continued, and she even discovered that her ex had gotten married.

But——by March 2022, when R found out about her ex’s marriage, she had already met someone new (they’d met in November 2021).

And now, R is preparing for marriage with her new boyfriend. By the time she received news of her ex’s divorce, she says it had become “surprisingly unimportant.”

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The Turning Point: Changing Your “Intention”

At Homéren, we value “intention” deeply. “Intention” means deciding what state you want to be in——like “in a blissful relationship with him” or “adored by him.” The philosophy is: “intention comes first, reality follows.”

R originally held the intention “he loves me.” That’s fine too, but at some point R realized something:

“At some point, I stopped specifying who he was and simply set my intention to ‘a me who is deeply adored.'”

This was the turning point.

The intention “I want him to love me” gets easily pulled around by the other person’s actual behavior. But the intention “a me who is adored” remains unshakeable no matter what reality looks like. R had reached that understanding.

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When “Ego” Gets in the Way

By “ego” in Homéren, we mean the semi-automatic thoughts that react to events. “He didn’t text me back → it’s over” “My ex got married → I’m doomed”——these are ego reactions.

When R learned of her ex’s marriage, she says she “felt insulted and humiliated.” That’s an ego reaction. But R “threw it away” and returned to her intention.

When you engage with ego, things get complicated. Just let it flow in one ear and out the other, and return to your intention——that’s the Homéren way.

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Real-Life Events Are “Irrelevant” to Manifestation

What stands out about R’s case is how the subconscious mind’s work came from “completely unexpected directions.”

Her ex, seemingly unconnected, suddenly appeared at her front door. A business card fell in an elevator R had never been in, and her ex contacted her. “Inexplicable coincidences kept happening,” R herself says.

Whether you get contacted, the other person’s circumstances, how things look in reality——none of it matters for manifestation. The subconscious mind is always working, regardless of the situation.

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Summary: Simply Decide on “A Me Who Is Adored”

What emerges from R’s report is something very simple.

• She let go of attachment to a specific person and set her intention to “a me who is deeply adored”
• The moment she decided on her intention, it was already changing, no matter what reality looked like
• The subconscious mind always finds a way, no matter how harsh the reality

“You can only end up happy anyway, so don’t worry”——these are words R sent us. The same goes for you. The moment you set your intention, everything is already working out♡

For more details on R’s success story, please check out the video.