【042】Why Reconciliation Happened: It Was “Withdrawing Into My Feelings” | How Reality Flipped Through the Subconscious Mind

“Even when he treats me coldly, I want to believe in the subconscious mind. But I just can’t seem to stop caring about reality……”

If you’re feeling this way, I have a real reconciliation story to share with you today.

T’s Reconciliation Report: A Roller Coaster of Reality and “Withdrawing Into My Feelings”

T (20s, university student) started dating a guy from her circle in July 2021. By winter, they were living together half the time, and even during his job hunting season, he supported her devotedly—days that looked like something out of a storybook. It was pure happiness.

But around the time his job hunting settled down, his attitude suddenly changed. Living arrangements became complicated, and the semi-cohabitation ended. After that, every time they met, he was either angry or cold. “I’m still mad,” “I wish I’d find someone better,” “I hate you”—he’d throw these words at her. Yet despite it all, T continued to be by his side.

“You’re hated,” but smiling inside—replacing the ego with “I’m loved”

Here’s something important to understand: the concept of “ego” as taught by Homéren.

Ego is a thought pattern that reacts semi-automatically to events. It’s like “cold behavior → this is impossible” or “he said he hates me → it’s over”—reactions that naturally arise from our past experiences and common sense. It’s not your true feelings; it’s just your ego reacting.

T describes what she felt during a date when he said “I hate you”:

“He’s so angry while thinking about me—it must mean he loves me this much. Even though he’s saying these things, of course things will work out.”

Where the ego would have reacted with “he hates me = it’s over,” T replaced it with “this is proof he loves me.” This is the same awareness taught in the Homéren video “Replace That Thought (Ego) Completely With ‘I’m Loved’!”

“Reality doesn’t matter anymore”—withdrawing into my feelings became the turning point

Still, T faced internal conflict. The cycle of “I set my intention, but then I end up focusing on reality anyway” repeated over and over. Many people experience this.

The turning point came when she got a LINE message saying her junior female friend had called him.

“I don’t need to be pushed around by a guy who causes me this much sadness anymore. I hate the guy I see in reality. I’m going to withdraw into my feelings and let the him in my heart make me happy instead.”

This was T’s “declaration of withdrawing into her feelings.” From that moment on, she stopped looking at reality and completely handed everything over to other power—in other words, the subconscious mind, a force outside herself.

“Before, I’d set my intention but always end up looking at reality. But here, I suddenly understood how to surrender to other power, as if wisdom had awakened in me.”

On the Last Day of the Trip, Reality Flipped

Soon after, they had an opportunity to travel together. Before the trip, T decided “we’ll become lovey-dovey,” and then she simply looked forward to enjoying the trip.

On the last day of the trip, he suddenly asked, “Want to stay at my place?”

From that moment on, his attitude completely changed. They became lovey-dovey like before. The roller coaster ups and downs vanished without a trace.

“It really felt like reality flipped. I felt both shock and a sense of ‘well, of course—I manifested this,’ at the same time.”

Summary: What Was in T’s Consciousness

What emerges from T’s report:

• Even when harsh words were directed at her, she replaced them with “I’m loved”
• While swinging between her feelings and reality, she let go of reality completely at one crucial moment
• The moment she could truly “surrender to other power,” reality began to shift

None of these are “actions”—they’re simply facts about T’s consciousness.

No matter how much reality shakes, the moment you decide on your feelings, you’ve already become a resident of that world—T’s report teaches us this truth.

Homéren has many more reconciliation reports like T’s. Be sure to check them out in the videos.You decided you’re in love. Now live like it — starting today.