【V-007】Do You Really Need Conversation Skills to Find Love? The Truth from a Subconscious Perspective

Have you ever experienced this?

When talking to someone you’re interested in, your mind goes completely blank thinking “What should I talk about?”

Awkward silences that make you feel uncomfortable when the conversation doesn’t flow.

Regretting afterwards, thinking “If only I could have said something more interesting, they would have liked me…”

When this happens, many people tend to think “I need to improve my conversation skills.” But do you really need conversation skills for love?

The “Conversation Skills Are Essential” Theory in Love Psychology

In the world of love psychology, communication skills are considered essential for romantic success.

Common Conversation Technique Advice

• Ask questions so the other person can speak comfortably
• Let the other person talk 70% of the conversation
• Find common ground and expand the conversation from there
• Look for topics the other person is interested in
• People who can make conversations lively are more attractive than quiet people

This advice seems reasonable and can indeed help smooth interpersonal relationships.

But When You Actually Try It…

However, many people who practice these techniques experience this reality:

• Constantly feeling nervous while thinking “What should I talk about?”
• Getting exhausted from desperately searching for topics the other person would enjoy
• Prioritizing questions that would please the other person over what you genuinely want to ask
• Feeling drained after being alone because you were constantly thinking while talking
• Despite all this effort, not really becoming close to anyone

The Truth About Conversation Skills from a Subconscious Perspective

“As You Think, So It Becomes” Is Everything

The law of manifestation through the subconscious is very simple:

“As you think, so it becomes.”

Applied to love, this becomes: “Because I think ‘I’m lovey-dovey with him,’ I become lovey-dovey with him.”

All you need to do is decide your “thoughts.”

Whether you have conversation skills or not, if you decide “I’m lovey-dovey with him,” you’ll become lovey-dovey with him.

Are Conversation Skills Really Necessary?

If you want to have enjoyable conversations and get excited with him, simply deciding the “thought” “I’m lovey-dovey with him” is sufficient.

In a world where things are already going well, conversations would naturally be lively too, so there’s no need to specifically work on improving conversation skills.

What’s important is the pure desire to get to know the other person. If you have that desire to know them, questions will come naturally, and natural exchanges will emerge.

Cherishing Your Own “Thoughts”

When you rely on techniques and only think about accommodating the other person, you end up in a state where your own “thoughts” are nowhere to be found.

From a subconscious perspective, it’s important to think from your own standpoint: “What do I want to be like?” and “What would make me happy?”

Rather than deciding detailed processes, just decide the “thought” “I’m lovey-dovey with him” and leave the rest to your subconscious.

What Real Connection Is

Think about it.

When there’s silence between you and someone you truly like or trust from the bottom of your heart, is it really that painful?

Surely there are comfortable silences too. There are relationships where you feel comfortable just being there without forcing conversation topics.

Real connections don’t come from techniques.

Summary: Being Loved Just as You Are

To you who have grown tired of trying to improve conversation skills:

Whether you have conversation skills or not, you can be loved and have a lovey-dovey relationship just as you are.

Once you decide the “thought” “I’m lovey-dovey with him,” you’re already in that world.

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