【043】How She Manifested Reconciliation After Being Told “I’ve Lost My Feelings” | How A-san Reclaimed Her Own Truth Through Subconscious Awareness and Self-Dialogue

Have you ever experienced being told “I’ve lost my feelings” by someone you loved, only to break up?

“It’s over now.” “Was it my fault?” “How can I make his feelings come back?”—these thoughts spiral endlessly, leaving you stuck in place. That’s the reality for many people hoping for reconciliation.

Today I’m sharing A-san’s reconciliation success story. After breaking up because she was told he’d “lost his feelings” due to trouble with female friends and his ex-girlfriend, A-san discovered the subconscious approach called Homéren. By continuing her own self-dialogue practice, she established her own sense of self. After that, he confessed: “I’ve always loved you. Please be with me again”—and they reconciled.

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What Was Happening to A-san?

A-san is in her thirties. She started dating a man she met at work. At first, she thought “I think he likes me,” and he actually confessed to her—her thoughts literally became reality.

The relationship started smoothly, but things changed six months in. Problems with other women kept arising, her anxiety grew, and thoughts like “Does he hate me?” spiraled obsessively. Finally, her ego (reactive thoughts born from fear and anxiety) exploded. When she let her feelings out to him, he said he’d “lost his feelings,” and they broke up.

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Meeting “Subconscious Awareness” and Her Own Practice

After the breakup, A-san discovered Homéren and learned about subconscious thinking: “What you believe becomes your reality.”

To explain subconscious awareness simply—it’s the understanding that “what you deeply believe is reflected in your reality.” It’s not about “methods to achieve something,” but rather about recognizing that “what you truly believe comes first” before anything else.

A-san thought, “If people who’ve manifested say that all they had to do was decide on their feelings, there’s no reason not to try.” She started practicing immediately.

But A-san is, by her own admission, lazy. Affirmations didn’t stick. Writing her ideals in a journal got boring. Yet she continued accumulating what she could do, in her own way.

• Feeling grateful for what’s right in front of her
• Fantasizing about her desired outcome and grinning to herself
• Even when his messages felt cold, interpreting them as “Actually, he loves me” in the most convenient way possible

Rather than focusing on “technique,” she explored “the nature of her consciousness” in her own way.

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A-san’s Secret Weapon Was “Self-Dialogue”

What A-san really focused on was how to face her ego (reactions born from fear and anxiety).

With Homéren, we teach that ego can simply be “tossed aside, ignored, brushed off.” But A-san discovered that in her case, she felt better by diving deeper and engaging in self-dialogue.

“When ego came up, I’d soothe it first, then gently speak to myself about what I wanted instead. By carefully examining what I was reacting to and why it hurt, I could also see what I truly felt.”

This self-dialogue became self-love for A-san. Self-love means treasuring yourself—and for A-san, that wasn’t journaling or meditation. It was quietly facing her emotions through dialogue with herself.

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The Turning Point—”It Doesn’t Have to Be Him”

About six months into her self-dialogue practice, A-san experienced a shift.

One day, suddenly, she didn’t care about him anymore.

“I’m such a wonderful person who can love someone this deeply—so it doesn’t have to be him. My certainty shifted to: ‘An even better version of him is waiting for me.'”

This wasn’t giving up. When your own sense of self becomes established, consciousness changes like this.

After that, she started getting more invitations from friends and her days became joyful. That’s when he reached out and asked her to go out somewhere. “I hesitated since I’d let go, but the plan sounded fun, so I decided to go,” A-san recalls with a smile.

At the end of their outing, he said: “I’ve always loved you. Please be with me again.”

A-san was gazing into space as she heard his confession, thinking to herself “Subconscious awareness is amazing~” she laughs.

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What A-san Wanted to Share

“Even though I’m lazy and super negative by nature, I gradually changed and actually manifested reconciliation. There’s no way your love won’t come true when you care about your own romance this much.”

And she said this at the end:

“More than reconciling, I’m just happy that I became this kind of person.”

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Conclusion: What Changed Was “The Nature of Her Consciousness”

Looking at A-san’s reconciliation story, we can see:

• She decided on her belief—She held the thought “me and him, together and happy” within herself first
• She faced her ego—Through deep exploration and self-dialogue, she examined the root of her ego
• She treasured herself—Self-dialogue itself became her self-love

None of these were about “doing it the right way.” They were simply the result of A-san choosing whatever made her feel lighter, again and again.

For A-san’s complete story, check out the video. It’s packed with how she faced her ego, the specific details of her self-dialogue, and the whole reconciliation journey.