【080】Two Months After Thinking “He Doesn’t Have to Be the One,” a Devoted Boyfriend Appeared | How the Subconscious Mind Manifests Love

“Why is only my wish not coming true?” “Even though I’ve decided what I want, my reality hasn’t changed”——if you’ve been feeling this way while practicing subconscious techniques, there’s a love manifestation story I really want you to read.

It’s about Ms. B, whose attachment to her ex-boyfriend faded away, and then a completely unexpected devoted boyfriend appeared from an entirely different direction.

Contents

Ms. B’s Love Story——Half a Year Without Anything Like a Real Relationship
“He’s Already My Husband”——What Seemed Like Deciding Her Future Was Actually Attachment
The Turning Point——”Actually, He Doesn’t Have to Be the One”
“Decide What You Want, But Don’t Grip It Tightly”——Ms. B’s Own Approach
Self-Love Is “Filling Your Own Cup”
Summary——Reality Can Move From Anywhere

Ms. B’s Love Story——Half a Year Without Anything Like a Real Relationship

Ms. B is a woman in her twenties. She started dating a former coworker in March 2022, but was told they should break up in September of that year.

Her boyfriend was highly sensitive (HSP), avoiding crowds and reducing communication frequency——basically, he didn’t do many of the typical “boyfriend things.” Ms. B understood this and was okay with it, but he ended the relationship saying, “I can’t hurt you with a relationship style so different from how society does relationships.”

After the breakup, Ms. B discovered ほめ♡レン while researching the subconscious and love on YouTube, and began practicing subconscious techniques aimed at reconciliation.

“He’s Already My Husband”——What Seemed Like Deciding Her Future Was Actually Attachment

In the subconscious world, “deciding what you want” typically means deciding on a state of being, like “being in a lovey-dovey relationship with him.” It sounds simple, but when Ms. B looked back later, she realized: “it was completely attachment.”

She kept repetitively thinking “he’s already my husband,” visited shrines many times. But reality didn’t change.

There’s an important hint here. “Deciding what you want” and “being attached” sound similar, but they’re completely different.

Deciding what you want: Once you decide, you can let go. It’s like releasing a balloon into the sky——you open your hand.
Attachment: The more you decide, the tighter your grip becomes. The more force you apply, the more your reality refuses to budge.

In Ms. B’s case, her desire for reconciliation was so strong that “thinking she was deciding her future” had actually become “a state of attachment.”

The Turning Point——”Actually, He Doesn’t Have to Be the One”

Around March 2023, about a year and a half after the breakup, Ms. B experienced a shift.

When a new connection came into her life, words naturally came out of her mouth:

“Oh, so this is how new connections happen. Actually, he doesn’t have to be the one. Maybe I’ll become friends with this person and get introduced to someone good. Or… maybe I’ll end up dating this person?”

She wasn’t consciously thinking it. One day, suddenly and naturally, she felt this way. At that moment, Ms. B says she naturally let go of her attachment to her ex-boyfriend.

Two months later in May, a delivery driver who came to her company to drop off a package ended up talking with her for a long time, and their connection deepened. In April 2024, they officially started dating.

It’s a perfect example of an “out of left field” meeting——something nobody could have predicted.

“Decide What You Want, But Don’t Grip It Tightly”——Ms. B’s Own Approach

As her relationship with her new boyfriend deepened, Ms. B said this:

“I decided that I’d be lovey-dovey with this person, but without gripping that thought tightly——I just naturally let it go.”

ほめ♡レン teaches the importance of “deciding what you want,” but how you exist after deciding is different for everyone. Ms. B realized her own tendency: “I’m the type who manifests less the more my feelings control me,” and she found her own style: “Once I’ve made my wish, I hold it like I’m releasing a balloon of feelings into the sky.”

These are words that only someone who truly knows themselves could say.

Self-Love Is “Filling Your Own Cup”

Ms. B spoke about self-love very concretely in her message.

“Only I can love myself first. I realized it’s wrong to ask someone else to fill the love that I lack, so I started to fulfill myself.”

Here are the specific self-love practices Ms. B did:

Smile at myself in the mirror
Feel happy wearing my favorite outfits
Get my hair cut, colored, and a head spa at the salon every month
Praise myself whenever I notice even the smallest changes

Ms. B honestly said, “I’m not naturally good at the commonly suggested image of hugging myself,” and she found a form of self-love that worked for her. There’s no one “correct” way to practice self-love——if it feels good to you, it counts as self-love. This is what ほめ♡レン teaches.

When your love tank is full because you’ve filled it yourself, you stop depending on others. It becomes easier to let go of attachment. This foundation is what supported Ms. B’s transformation.

Summary——Reality Can Move From Anywhere

Here’s what Ms. B’s manifestation teaches us:

Sometimes “thinking you’re deciding what you want” is actually “being in a state of attachment”
When attachment is let go, reality begins to move from an unexpected direction
After deciding what you want, you can release it without gripping tightly
Self-love is “filling your own cup yourself.” The form is different for each person

Just like Ms. B, the moment when “actually, he doesn’t have to be the one” naturally comes out of your mouth will come to everyone. Your love manifestation is already working perfectly——it’s just not the right timing yet.

Please watch Ms. B’s testimonial in the video.

📺 Love Manifestation Testimonial❣️ “I don’t have to be with my ex.” Two months after thinking this, from a completely unexpected direction, a deeply devoted boyfriend appeared who expresses his love openly and straightforwardly!