【057】Why “Her Most Gentle Boyfriend Ever” Appeared Instead of Her Ex｜Manifesting Love Through the Subconscious Mind

“I absolutely have to get back together with my ex.”

Have you ever felt that way, only to find yourself thinking later, “Come to think of it, why was I even chasing after this person?”

Today’s story features O, who deeply longed to reunite with her ex and used her subconscious mind to build this intention. Reality began to shift, and she started seeing him again—but each time they met, she felt “something’s off.” And then something remarkable happened.

The person who appeared in O’s life was incomparably gentler than the ex she wanted to reunite with. He became the kindest boyfriend she’d ever had.

Her experience holds crucial insights into the power of manifesting love through the subconscious mind.

What Happened to O: Aiming for Reconciliation, Yet Feeling Growing Discomfort

O began dating a younger colleague from work in August 2021. However, his moods shifted constantly, they rarely spent time together, and the relationship was filled with anxiety. When he cancelled on his birthday plans at the last minute, they broke up.

Yet O remained hopeful: “I’ll reunite with him and marry him by the day we broke up.”

In February 2022, O discovered ほめ♡レン’s videos and began “deciding her thoughts.”

Here’s the intention O decided on:

“I am the version of myself who is loved more and more each day, adored by my beloved, living every day with a smile.”

Once she decided this intention, reality began to shift. Her ex started contacting her, and they began seeing each other again. But with each meeting, the discomfort grew stronger: “He’s nothing like the image I had.”

What Does “Deciding Your Thoughts” Really Mean?

ほめ♡レン frequently uses the phrase “deciding your thoughts.” This isn’t about forcing willpower so much as clarifying what kind of world you want to inhabit.

In matters of love, you decide on a state of being—”I am in a loving relationship” or “I am adored”—as your intention. The moment you decide this intention, you’re already a resident of that world. This is ほめ♡レン’s philosophy.

O initially decided on the thought “I will reunite with my ex,” but as she repeatedly reinforced the intention “I am adored,” her consciousness gradually shifted.

What is the Ego: It’s Natural for Doubts to Emerge

The “ego” refers to thoughts that react semi-automatically to events. It’s when you automatically respond based on past experiences and conventional wisdom—”He didn’t contact me → It’s hopeless” or “He was cold when we met → It’s not going to work.”

O experienced this countless times. But here’s what she said:

“The ego would show up hundreds, thousands of times within a second of deciding my intention. Yet I persisted in always ending with ‘the version of me who is adored,’ no matter what.”

Rather than trying to eliminate the ego, the key is accepting that “the ego will always show up” and continuously returning to “the adored version of myself” at the end. O’s experience teaches us the power of this practice.

The Moment “Maybe He Isn’t the One” Was Born

As “the adored me” became her natural state, O had a second dinner with her ex.

“Inside, I already had a partner who cherishes me, and I am adored. So why am I even chasing after someone so cold? I couldn’t understand my own reasons anymore.”

This wasn’t O “giving up on reconciliation.” Because “the adored me” had become an unshakeable reality, the cold version of her ex naturally no longer fit that world.

The Appearance of Her Gentlest Boyfriend Ever

Later, O tried a dating app. She met someone who lived in another prefecture and took a while to reply—conditions that would have been “unacceptable” before. But here’s what she felt:

“When I’m with my current boyfriend, the way I feel resembles the sensation of being adored so much. It feels right.”

Her current boyfriend genuinely conveys through his voice and actions that he truly cherishes her. When she shows her vulnerable side, he says, “I want to see more of that.” He’s incomparably gentler than the ex she wanted to reunite with. Her days with this kindest boyfriend she’s ever had have begun.

Summary: Reality Simply Reflects Your Intentions

Here’s what O’s story reveals:

• By deciding “I am adored,” her reality began to shift
• Even when the ego appeared, she persisted in ending with “the version of me who is fulfilled”
• As her intention deepened, her cold ex naturally ceased to fit that world
• A new partner who perfectly matched “the sensation of being adored” appeared

Those determined to “reunite with their ex at all costs” should keep holding that intention. Like O, others who build up “the adored version of myself” find that the scenery naturally transforms around them. Both are correct—both are simply the result of deciding on your intention.