【085】From Ambiguous Relationship to Official Dating｜The “Destination Setting” That Transformed a 4-Year Connection

“We can date, but I can’t become his girlfriend.” “I love him, but our relationship won’t progress.”——Many people struggle with ambiguous relationships like these. Today, I’d like to share the success story of Yさん, who moved from an ambiguous relationship lasting nearly 4 years into an official partnership. Yさん’s shift in consciousness is packed with hints for manifesting love through your subconscious mind.

Yさん’s Situation｜”Men Are Never in Short Supply, But I Can’t Become His One” — 4 Years

Yさん is a woman in her 30s working as a freelancer. She met her current boyfriend in 2020 and was dating multiple men through dating apps at the same time. She maintained an ambiguous relationship with him and several others for nearly 4 years, seeing each other only once or twice every 1-2 months. Even though there was physical intimacy, no confession of love ever came.

“Men are never in short supply. But I can’t become his one.”

Yさん expressed her situation in these words. Beneath the abundance of choices, she says there was always an emptiness lingering.

In 2023, she discovered ほめ♡レン and began learning about the subconscious mind. However, the pressure of “I have to be certain” and “If I can’t think that way, it won’t come true” began to grow, and the more she thought about it, the heavier the burden became.

The Turning Point in Consciousness｜Taking a Break and Changing Her Destination

The shift for Yさん came when she stopped pursuing the subconscious learning that had become painful.

She stopped watching ほめ♡レン content and threw herself into her work. She moved to a new place and changed her environment. When she decided to “earn ○○○ yen,” her annual income increased significantly.

Then in February 2024, Yさん made a decision.

“I will make my own happiness my only destination. Whether it’s him. Whether it’s someone else. Whether my work succeeds. It doesn’t matter.”

She let go of her attachment to love and began moving toward her own happiness——this shift in consciousness became a major turning point.

From the Subconscious Perspective｜When the Direction of Your Thoughts Changes, Your Reality Changes Too

At ほめ♡レン, we value the belief that “as you think, so it becomes.”

Yさん was exactly this: because she believed “I can’t become his one,” that reality kept repeating itself. This is how the subconscious mind works (※the awareness that exists in a deep place where you’re not consciously aware of it).

The moment Yさん switched her destination to “my own happiness,” she entered a state of mind where whether it’s him, someone else, or her work——anything was welcome.

She chose to let go to her subconscious (＝trusting in something greater than herself).

Even when “ego” (※the automatic negative thought patterns that react to events) appeared, Yさん handled it in her own way. She’d enjoy a drink, lift her spirits with comics or horror movies——she switched her consciousness by engaging in things that brought her joy.

After that, her closeness with him grew suddenly, and Yさん confessed to him during one of their dates. The 4-year ambiguous relationship transformed into an official partnership.

Yさん reflects on this: “Just like when you decide to go to the convenience store and your feet automatically walk the usual route, once you decide, it’s your subconscious on autopilot from there. The necessary moments and actions should naturally follow.”

In Summary｜Even in an Ambiguous Relationship, You Can Change Your Destination

For those of you struggling with an ambiguous relationship right now.

• Yさん recognized “the me who can’t become his one” and changed her destination to “my own happiness”
• When things became painful, she stepped away; she directed her consciousness toward joy; she enriched her work and life——this was her form of self-love
• Rather than trying to win his heart, when she moved toward her own happiness, her reality changed

It doesn’t matter how many years an ambiguous relationship has lasted. When you change the direction of your thoughts, your subconscious’s autopilot kicks in.

For more details on Yさん’s success story, please watch the video♡

📺 From a 4-Year Ambiguous Relationship to Official Dating! When I Decided “Whether It’s Him or Not, It Doesn’t Matter. My Destination Is My Own Happiness,” We Suddenly Grew Close❤