【038】Even with a Strong Ego, Reconciliation is Possible! How an “Incredibly Annoying” Woman Rekindled Love in 3 Months—The Secret Mindset Revealed

“I should be happy, but somehow I end up throwing my anxiety at him”
“Even though there’s no reason, I get suspicious and start interrogating him”

Have you ever experienced this? Today, I want to share the story of H-san, who described herself as an “incredibly annoying woman” struggling with her ego’s wild tendencies, and how she achieved reconciliation after 3 months of no contact.

H-san’s Relationship Situation: 3 Years Together and Repeating Fight Patterns

H-san, in her 30s, had been dating a man 5 years her junior whom she fell in love with at first sight while working at a club. He was “kind like a Buddha, constantly devoted to her,” but problems began after about a year.

H-san would become gripped by “unexplainable suspicions and anxiety,” interrogate him, he would apologize, they’d reconcile—and this pattern kept repeating.

“I only felt truly at peace right after we made up. Even though I should have been happy, I was constantly exhausted by how I’d cling to him like some delinquent.”

Eventually, they had a major fight and broke up when he forgot their 3rd anniversary. They almost reconciled once, but H-san’s ego spiraled out of control again, leading to 3 months of no contact.

Meeting the Subconscious Mind: The Shocking Impact of “You Become What You Think”

During the no-contact period, H-san stumbled upon a Homéren video on YouTube. At first, she thought “that’s too good to be true,” but after watching just 2 videos, she had a major breakthrough.

“Imagining the worst-case scenario versus thinking ‘you become what you think’—the latter is definitely a way more fun way to live!”

Until then, H-san’s thought pattern had been: “Good things I imagine won’t come true anyway. Imagining the worst keeps me safe.” But she realized this way of thinking was nothing more than a habit.

The “It Works Even with Ego” Mindset During Those 3 Months

What H-san particularly focused on was how to work with her ego—those semi-automatic reactive thoughts in response to real-world events.

During the 3 months of no contact, H-san practiced the following:

• Every day, she would think “He really loves me so much”
• She’d write imaginary messages: “Good morning,” “Good night,” “We can see each other this weekend”
• She’d imagine his sweet words and imagine her replies
• She’d imagine planning trips together with him

“Looking back, I was probably pretty unhinged,” H-san laughs, but this was precisely the practice of “deciding what you believe.”

The Miracle on Reconciliation Day: A Man Transformed, As If the Past Had Changed

Three months later, following her intuition, H-san reached out to him. His initial response was cold, but things shifted when she sent him photos from Kyoto.

When she mentioned wanting to give him a souvenir, he unexpectedly replied, “I’m looking forward to it.” She was even able to set up a meeting.

On reconciliation day, H-san showed up with absolute confidence, thinking “I’m amazing—why would I accept a man who treats me carelessly?” And then he appeared with a surprise birthday cake, smiling brightly.

“It was as if the past had changed and he had transformed. I wondered if I was confusing the man in my thoughts with the real man in front of me.”

Key Mindset Points for Reconciliation Success, Learned from H-san

1. Don’t Make Your Ego the Enemy—Operate from “It Works Even with Ego”

Most people treat their ego as the villain, but H-san operated from the premise that “it works even with ego,” “it works even with negative thoughts,” “it just works.”

2. Don’t Reality-Check Against What’s Happening Now

Even with 3 months of no contact as reality, H-san continued to think “he loves me so much.” She didn’t react to her circumstances but kept trusting her own thoughts.

3. Interpret Everything in Your Favor, to the Maximum

H-san chose “the way that works best for me, that feels easiest and most right.” This is the very essence of using the subconscious mind.

Conclusion: You’re Already in a World Where Everything is Working Out

What we learn from H-san’s experience is that reconciliation is possible even with a strong ego, even with negative thoughts. What matters is “deciding what you believe.” And operating from the premise that “it works even with ego.”

No matter what situation you’re in, you’re already in a world where you’re experiencing a happy love. Reality simply reflects back what you think.