【029】”Living as His Wife” Led to Reconciliation After 4 Months of No Contact! A Testimonial on Experiencing “Already Having” Through the Subconscious Mind

If you’re struggling with feelings for an ex-partner that you can’t let go of, suffering every day—this one’s for you. Today, I’d like to share the story of M (in her 30s), who achieved reconciliation by thoroughly embodying “living as his wife.”

M’s Love Life and the Breakup

M had been dating a man she met through an app for three months. However, during their relationship, she constantly worried about his mood and felt so tense when eating out that she couldn’t swallow her food.

“I was always thinking I had to say something clever, and I think he sensed that. It felt like he wasn’t really opening up to me either, and I was constantly suspicious of him,” M reflects.

The breakup happened because he started responding slowly to her messages and leaving her on read. As her distrust and irritation grew, M emotionally blocked him on LINE.

Learning About the Subconscious and Practicing “Becoming His Wife”

For a brief moment, M felt relieved thinking, “I don’t have to think about that guy ever again.” But soon, she found herself thinking about him every day—every second, really.

That’s when M began learning about the subconscious mind. She discovered methods like “the 701 formula of becoming” and “living with the imagined version of him” through summary websites and decided to practice them.

The Subconscious Mind: The power of the mind that works in the unconscious realm. It’s said to have a major influence on our actions and reality creation.

“Becoming”: Living as if you’ve already achieved that state. It’s one technique for manifesting your desires.

Here’s how M practiced it:
– Write “I am the wife of ○○ (his name) and it’s manifested” on a sticky note and place it on her bed
– Go to work as his wife
– Do gym training as his wife
– Cook as his wife
– When baking a cake, imagine him being there and playfully say “here, say ‘ahh'”

Facing the Ego

The Ego: Thoughts that automatically react based on past experiences and common sense. At Homéren, we view it as something that blocks our true intentions.

M also encountered her ego during practice:
“Isn’t it pathetic to live imagining life with a man I might never see again?”
“If only he would disappear from my mind, I wouldn’t have to suffer like this.”

When these thoughts came up, she’d notice “I’ve become the version of myself that hasn’t manifested it” and redirect herself back to “the version of myself that has manifested it.”

Reconciliation After 4 Months

Toward the end of May, M unblocked him and sent a message: “How have you been?”

A few hours later, his reply came:
“Would you be willing to stay in contact with me again?”

When M shared her feelings:
“Me too. I knew you had me blocked, but I was still texting and calling you. I loved you so much. Would you date me again?”

This is how reconciliation was achieved after 4 months of no contact.

The Surprising Feeling Upon Reconciliation

The sensation M felt when they reconciled was striking:
“I imagined a more emotional reunion, but it was surprisingly ordinary. It felt like meeting my husband again after a long business trip.”

That’s right—in M’s consciousness, he was already her husband. This is what’s known in the subconscious world as being in the “already have” state.

M’s Message: The Importance of Letting Go of Attachment

After reconciliation, M left this message:

“I understand it’s scary to let go of the attachment that it has to be him, but I encourage you to bravely release those feelings of clinging to him. He’ll just come right back anyway.”

She says that when she reached the point of thinking “whether it’s him or someone else, as long as I’m happy, it doesn’t matter,” she was finally able to release the emotions she’d been gripping so tightly.

Conclusion: The Moment You Decide, You’re Already Living in That World

What we can learn from M’s experience is this: “The moment you decide on something, you’re already a resident of that world.”

Even though reality showed no change, M was already living as “his wife” in her consciousness. That thorough way of holding her awareness ultimately led to real-world reconciliation.

You too, in this very moment, can decide and already be living in the world you desire.