Why the Reason You Broke Up Doesn’t Matter at All

If you’re hoping to reconnect with an ex, chances are the breakup happened because of something specific—or maybe a bunch of little things that added up.

When you’re apart, your mind naturally drifts to thoughts like these:

And so on…

I completely get how these thoughts from the past keep circling back, making you anxious about what might happen next.

I really do understand.

Your subconscious mind is at play here because, well, there’s not much you can actively do about it right now, is there?

So does that mean you should just sit back and let others handle it?

If that’s what you think, you might as well give up on your own efforts.

True self-reliance means taking what happened in the past, looking at the reality unfolding right in front of you, and making conscious choices based on that awareness.

Bring those uncomfortable thoughts into the present moment on purpose

Do you see what I’m saying?
Just how powerless is the ego we call “thinking”?

Since you and your partner broke up, it’s obvious that whatever happened wasn’t working for you.

When you really look at it closely, isn’t dwelling on these thoughts purely harmful with zero benefits?

So why do we insist on dragging up these painful things and replaying them over and over?

This is the ego’s favorite trick. It grabs onto past experiences and old beliefs, whispering,

 

“Because it happened that way before,” ”1 + 1 = minus 100!!” or “Wait, didn’t you think this through carefully? Your math is completely off.”

The ego tries to figure out what steps you should take to get back together, but in doing so, it’s actually building walls that keep you from reaching your goal.

Your thoughts aren’t really yours

So why is it so hard to let go of this ego that only does harm? The answer is simple.

Because you believe that the thought is yours.

“Isn’t that obvious?” you’re probably thinking, right?
But honestly, it’s not as obvious as you’d think lol

There’s a lot more I could tell you about this, but for now,

Just think of it this way: ”My thoughts don’t actually belong to me.”

Even though these thoughts aren’t truly yours, when your ego starts spinning up, the anxiety and fear feel incredibly real.

It’s strange—something that isn’t really true can feel so real that it’s hard to believe it’s not actually you.

But that’s okay. Just stay a little detached, and remember that “thoughts aren’t yours.” When you catch yourself thinking something like “I haven’t heard from them via text or messaging.

 

Do they hate me?” you can simply notice it and think, “Oh, there it goes again.” Just let it pass like a casual thought and move on.

At first, these thoughts might be so woven into your identity that you don’t even realize what’s happening, but gradually you’ll start to see the difference. Once you get it, you can let these thoughts go without a second thought—no problem at all.

When it comes to thoughts, ♡ Don’t inherit doubtful thoughts. Only you have the power to truly “think” I think this article might help you too, so if you’re interested, check it out ♡

Your ego might try to convince you that “if you want to get back together, you have to think hard about every step, or it won’t work” (in that sneaky voice), but if you trust your subconscious mind instead and let go of those unnecessary thoughts, you’ll be amazed at how quickly the future you want shows up ♡

I’ve been talking about the ego like it’s the bad guy, but really, it’s just trying to protect you, so it’s not all wrong.

It’s just limited to predicting based on past experiences and beliefs, but when it comes to your subconscious mind and getting back together, I’d rather keep those predictions as completely unnecessary and totally irrelevant lol

Let’s make miracles happen with ease.

♡Meguru♡