Reader Questions #2: I’m Not Sure If This Is Working

Hello. This is Iruru. Happy New Year!

Let’s make you even happier this year! Now, let’s dive right into today’s question.

(The question details have been modified to protect the reader’s privacy)

I’m not sure if this is working.

C

“I want to get back together with him, but he has a girlfriend now.
I was able to go on a date the other day, but he told me to “find another man.”
I thought I was ignoring reality, but I ended up feeling depressed.
Should I continue believing that this will work? I’m not sure if it’s actually working.”

Manifesting through your subconscious mind

You went on a date with the guy you want to get back together with! That’s amazing!

But then he said, “Find another man.” Ouch. That stings.

I totally understand why some people feel depressed or anxious and want to take action to fix things.

But if you’re trying to manifest through your subconscious, I want you to skip right past this part and keep believing you’ll get back together.

Here’s the thing – we approach everything from the perspective of “manifesting love through the subconscious mind.”

When you decide subconsciously to manifest something, “what you believe becomes reality.”

I want you to decide what you want and become the person who already has it.

You might be thinking, “But I’m supposed to be the person who has what they want, yet it hasn’t happened yet!”

Try embodying the version of yourself that already has what you want.

For example, when you want coffee, you can drink it because in your mind, you’ve already decided to have coffee.

Similarly, I want you to start by visualizing yourself back together and in love with him in your mind.

Rather than just focusing on getting back together, think about what you want your future to look like. This will help you manifest faster, so really envision what you want to happen.

Also, only your subconscious mind knows how to get back together with him, so don’t try to figure it all out.

Let’s leave everything to the power of your subconscious mind.

So like you did, C, it’s perfect to “ignore” whatever happens in reality!

Normally, when something happens in real life (like him telling you to “find another man”), you’d want to do something to change the outcome.

But when you’re manifesting through your subconscious, you completely ignore that part.

The only things that matter are “what you want and who you want to be.”

I’m not sure if it will work

There are definitely people who, like C, worry about whether it will actually work, even after they’ve made their decision.

“I can’t stop feeling anxious and I don’t know if I can keep believing.
I feel like my fears will come true instead… Does this mean I’m not deciding properly?”

Some people feel confused like this. I’ve been there too.

Even when anxious, return to your decision

Here’s the truth: along with the principle “what you believe becomes reality,” there’s no separate rule that says “if you’re anxious, it won’t work.”
So whatever you decide, regardless of whether you’re worried or not, it will manifest.

Even if you feel anxious, it’s okay – just come back to what you’ve decided.

When you feel anxious, instead of telling yourself “I shouldn’t be anxious!!!”, try comforting yourself by saying “I’m feeling anxious, and that’s okay.”

After that, return to the feeling you want to manifest, saying “Well, I’m still in love with him!”

If you become anxious and get caught up in that anxiety, you might start spiraling into more negative thoughts.

But anxiety is just a thought or ego reaction based on past experiences.

Since it’s your ego, you can just think “Oh, there’s my ego again” and you don’t have to take that anxiety seriously.

Your ego might pop up in different ways because of past experiences, but that’s fine – just let it be and ignore it.

Then return to your fulfilled self, eat something delicious, do what you love, and enjoy being who you are now.

So here’s my answer…

 

 

If you’re still worried, check this out

Still feeling more and more anxious and worried? Then definitely watch this too!

Once you realize that you’re creating your own anxiety, maybe it will suddenly disappear?