【050】Why “He’ll Eventually Lose Interest” Became Reality, and How I Manifested Reconciliation and Marriage Through My Subconscious Mind

“I have a feeling he’ll lose interest someday…” “It seems like he’s pulling away…” — I think many people carry these anxieties while in relationships.

But when that anxiety becomes reality, it might be a sign of the subconscious law that says “thoughts come first, reality follows.”

Today, I’d like to share the story of Iさん, a teenager who achieved reconciliation and marriage with her ex through a success testimony video from ほめ♡レン (home-ren.com).

Iさん’s Situation: From a Lovey-Dovey Relationship to Reconciliation with Her Ex Who Now Had a Girlfriend

Iさん had been dating a boy from her high school class since 2020 for about two years. They’d talk on the phone every night, date frequently, and express their love both in words and actions — they were truly a lovey-dovey couple.

However, after about a year of dating, Iさん began feeling irritated by his words and actions, and their fights increased. Upon reflection, she realized, “I had low self-esteem and was trying to get him to fill that gap for me.”

In May 2022, he told her “We’re not compatible, let’s just be friends, there’s no reconciliation,” and they broke up. Two months later, she discovered he had a new girlfriend. It was at this point that she discovered ほめ♡レン.

“If You Think It, It Becomes Reality” — Her Entire Love History Was the Evidence

ほめ♡レン teaches the philosophy that “thoughts come first, reality follows.” The core message is: “So you think it, so it becomes.”

Iさん says this concept didn’t click with her at first. But as she continued watching the videos, she reflected on her own love history.

• Before dating: “I’m absolutely going to make him fall for me” → 12 months later, he truly fell for her
• During dating: “He’ll eventually lose interest and break up with me” → She was truly broken up with
• After the breakup: “He’ll probably date that girl who said she liked him” → That’s exactly what happened

Whether positive or negative — everything she thought became reality.

Iさん realized: “Wow, I have incredible power. I just need to use it for good things.” This was her turning point.

Setting Her Thoughts to “A Marriage Where He Adores Me”

ほめ♡レン emphasizes the importance of “deciding your thoughts.” Rather than just wishing for reconciliation, you set a bigger intention: “What kind of self do I want to be?”

Iさん set her intention as “a marriage where he adores me.” Reconciliation wasn’t the goal — her thought encompassed being married and living a life where she was cherished every day.

With this intention in place, no matter how much reality wavered, she could stay positive thinking, “Well, we’re going to get married anyway.” She refused to be swayed by his contradictory words and actions (saying “there’s no reconciliation” one moment, saying “I like you” the next).

“Surrendering to Higher Power” — Blocking His LINE and Removing Her Own Control

ほめ♡レン frequently uses the phrase “surrender to higher power.” This means “stop trying to control things yourself and entrust it to your subconscious mind.”

Exhausted, Iさん blocked his LINE at the end of December and told him she was cutting ties.

“By putting myself in a situation where I couldn’t do anything on my own, I was able to truly surrender to my subconscious as that higher power,” she reflected.

When her ego (those automatic negative thoughts like “Maybe it won’t work out” or “It’s impossible anyway”) would surface, she practiced dismissing them by thinking, “That’s just ego, toss it out.”

One Month After Blocking: Reconciliation With Marriage as the Goal

One month after blocking him, at the end of January, he messaged her through a different social media app: “How are you? I want to see you.” It was an app he barely used — he’d created it just to contact her.

“I wasn’t even surprised, it felt like ‘finally it happened,'” she recalls.

Even when he asked for reconciliation, Iさん didn’t say yes right away. She had serious conversations with him and waited over a month. In March, he told her, “I want you by my side forever. We’re still students, but I want to date you with the intention of getting married,” and she said yes.

Conclusion: The Power of Thought Works the Same for Anxiety and Love

What comes across from Iさん’s story is that the subconscious mind (the power of thought) works equally well for both positive and negative outcomes. If anxiety has the power to become reality, then loving thoughts have that same power.

What was particularly striking about Iさん’s case:

• She independently realized “my entire love history has manifested my thoughts” by reflecting on her past
• She set her intention not just to reconciliation, but to “a marriage where he adores me”
• Even when he asked for reconciliation, she didn’t rush — she had thorough conversations before saying yes

No matter what situation you’re in, the moment you decide your thoughts, you become a resident of that world. For more details about Iさん’s story, please watch the video.