【049】I Gave Up on Reconciliation and Decided to Be “The Me With an Ideal Husband”—Then I Started Dating Someone New | Manifesting Love Through the Subconscious Mind

“Breaking up with the same person over and over, getting back together, breaking up again… I don’t know what to do anymore.”

If you’re experiencing this, I’d like to share a wonderful success story with you today.

Ms. M (in her 30s) spent 13 years thinking about the same person, and through a shift in perspective, she began a new relationship with her ideal partner. Here’s her story.

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Ms. M’s 13 Years—A Long Relationship With a History of Reconciliation

Their relationship started in 2010. After being together for over 3 years, they broke up. Two and a half years later, they reconciled and lived together for 5 years—only to break up again.

He was a kind person, and they rarely fought. But as time went on, she began to notice things that bothered her: his lack of help with housework, his unstable job situation creating financial worry, his overbearing parents. The feeling of “I love him” and the concern of “Can I really marry this person?” existed side by side within her the whole time.

When they broke up for the second time in 2021, Ms. M dove deeper into learning about the subconscious mind to pursue a second reconciliation.

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“Deciding Your Desire” Gets Blocked by Your Ego

Let me explain a bit about how Homéren approaches manifesting love through the subconscious mind.

We teach that what matters most for manifesting love is “deciding your desire.” Deciding “I’m in a loving relationship with him” or “I’m the me with an ideal husband”—that’s all it takes.

But what blocks this is your “ego.”

The ego is what automatically arises in response to real events—like “No message came in → it’s hopeless” or “That happened → they must hate me.” It’s a “voice of assumption” based on past experiences and fears.

Ms. M reflects on this:

“I was completely covered in ego. Even when nothing was actually happening, I was so scared that my ego would chatter endlessly in my head about what might happen.”

For years, she couldn’t distinguish between her ego and her true voice. She treated the ego as “her real feelings” and became one with it. By watching Homéren videos repeatedly, she gradually learned to respond with, “Oh, that’s just ego. I’ll let it go.”

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“Reconciling With Him” Masked a Deeper Truth

Even while pursuing reconciliation, Ms. M always had a nagging question: “Will we really be happy if we get back together?”

From a subconscious perspective, this is a crucial point.

Beneath the surface desire of “I want to reconcile” lay a deeper truth: “His job situation, how he spends money, his lack of independence, his parents’ interference—these are deal-breakers.” Because of this real belief, she couldn’t truly decide on reconciliation.

Later, Ms. M realized: “Looking back now, it wasn’t that reconciliation didn’t happen. I actually chose not to reconcile with him myself. I couldn’t stop creating my own self-fulfilling prophecies.”

Reality is a mirror reflecting your beliefs. The “impossible reconciliation” she was experiencing was perhaps reflecting her true desires.

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“Letting Go” Released Her True Desires

Then came a turning point for Ms. M.

“You know what, I’m just going to give up on manifesting and decide that my ideal husband already exists in my life. No one can stop me. It doesn’t matter.”

That was the moment she stopped clinging to reconciliation with him and switched to the belief: “I’m the me with an ideal husband.”

Then something remarkable happened. The distance between her and a coworker two years her junior rapidly closed. Ms. M had felt uncomfortable around him, but she thought, “Maybe that discomfort is just ego,” and decided to actually engage with him.

When she visited his place, she saw him carefully preparing home-cooked meals, his well-organized life, and discovered a scent that was absolutely her type—her heart started to move. Before she knew it, they were living almost together, and he asked her to be his girlfriend.

“It turns out he matched a lot of the qualities on that ‘ideal boyfriend’ list I wrote down years ago. I’m honestly shocked that my ideal person was this close,” Ms. M says.

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Letting Go Isn’t the Same as Giving Up

What Ms. M’s experience reveals is that it’s not about being attached to a specific person—it’s about what state of being you embody that creates your reality.

When she stopped white-knuckling around “it has to be him” and returned to the belief “I’m the me with an ideal husband,” someone who truly matched her ideal appeared.

Today, Ms. M says about her current boyfriend: “I feel like I could marry him right away. He accepts me exactly as I am,” and she plans to share her wedding announcement soon.

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In Summary

What Ms. M’s success story teaches us:

• She discovered the belief “I’m the me with an ideal husband”
• She realized she’d been mistaking ego for her true voice
• She discovered that beneath “reconciliation with him” lay a deeper truth

If you’ve been chasing the same person for years, or just experienced another breakup, asking yourself “What is my real desire?”—perhaps Ms. M’s story can be the key to your answer.

For more details, watch the full video here:

📺 She Aimed for a Second Reconciliation With Her Ex, But When She Decided to Be “The Me With an Ideal Husband,” She Suddenly Got Close to Her Work Colleague and They Started Dating ❤