【048】I Realized I Was “Him-Centered” and Got Back Together | Why Your Love Life Changes Through Your Subconscious Mind and Self-Centered Axis

“I think about him constantly, and I put myself last.”

Have you ever felt this way?

You get caught up in every text message response, you try to confirm his feelings, and before you know it, you’re only concerned with his reactions rather than your own emotions—if this resonates with you, I’d like to share A’s reunion story with you today.

What Happened to A

A is a woman in her 20s. She dated a man she met through a dating app for about a year, but they broke up when he said, “I want to be alone, and your affection feels like pressure.”

Right after the breakup, she couldn’t eat, and at a wedding she attended, she even had a panic attack. The shock was that significant.

After that, she discovered Homéren videos and started watching them from December 2022. By January 2023, she had already gotten back together with him.

Recognizing That She Was “Him-Centered” Was the Starting Point for Everything

Homéren teaches the relationship between the subconscious mind and romantic fulfillment using three concepts as its foundation: “Desire,” “Ego,” and “Self-Love.”

Desire is the core truth you decide for yourself, like “being lovey-dovey and happy with him.”
Ego is semi-automatic reactionary thinking in response to events, like “no contact = it’s over.”
Self-Love is caring for yourself in all ways. It’s not a “method to make things come true”—every moment of your daily life where you focus on yourself can become self-love.

Through the videos, A realized: “I was living without my own will, centered on him. That’s probably why he said my affection was pressure.”

This was her starting point.

What A Did by Turning Her Attention to Herself

Rather than focusing on ego management, A chose to watch videos about having a self-centered axis. She decided to encourage herself, thinking, “There’s absolutely no one better than me.”

And she made her decision. Her desire: “Being his beloved wife, happy and lovey-dovey every day.”

She became so immersed in this desire that she even unconsciously signed his name when picking up her belongings.

Additionally, A continued writing down small moments of happiness in a notebook every day.

“I’m happy I could see the snow. I’m happy the convenience store coffee was 50 yen cheaper with a coupon. I’m happy I got to eat my favorite rice flour bread.”

In Homéren’s philosophy, even boiling water is self-love. Without doing anything extraordinary, finding happiness in small moments of daily life becomes the foundation for staying in the world of your desire.

Even When Told “I Have a Girlfriend,” She Was Skipping with Joy the Next Day

At the end of December, he told her, “I have a girlfriend.”

She says the tears wouldn’t stop—she was devastated.

But by the next day, she was skipping with joy, back in her desire world.

A reflects: “I think it’s because I was strongly conscious of spending my time in the world of my desire rather than in reality.”

In the subconscious world, reality is thought to be “a reflection of your desire.” In other words, your desire comes first and is the truth, regardless of how reality appears. You don’t need to accept reality as “proof.”

How the Reunion Happened

In the new year, A contacted him to meet his parents, and they reunited. He had prepared meals for two days before, and on the day itself, he had the bath ready and was waiting for her.

When A brought up wanting to be together again, he confessed: “Please be with me from now on,” and they got back together.

Later, she learned that the girlfriend he had said he was with lasted only about a week before they broke up.

A’s Message

“Don’t move from there even one step. Keep staying in your desire. Then, before you know it, reality will start moving toward your desire. It really is that simple.”

Summary: When Your Focus Turns to Yourself, Your Love Life Begins to Move

What’s common throughout A’s report is its simplicity.

She didn’t get caught up too much in ego. She focused on herself, made her decision about her desire, and stayed there.

Even when the reality of “he has a girlfriend” came, she didn’t leave the world of her desire.

If you’re feeling anxious about your relationship with him right now, please watch A’s report video.

📺 Realizing I Was Him-Centered and Focusing on My Self-Centered Axis Led to Reunion!