Reader Q&A #7: He Has a Girlfriend – Can We Still Get Back Together?

Hello. This is Iruru.

Today, I want to share a question I received that I think will help many of you.

(Details have been changed to protect the reader’s privacy)

From T

I watched your video and I’m so in love with him! But he has a new girlfriend.
Even though he has a girlfriend, we still exchange emails occasionally and he’s started calling me, which makes me happy. But I’m also worried that he’s just trying to keep me around while he’s with someone else.

Is it possible for me to get back together in this situation?

I want to get back together, but he has a new girlfriend…

She wants to get back together, but he’s already found someone new and they seem to be living together.

That’s such a shock to hear… I completely understand having all kinds of painful thoughts racing through your mind.

I think the heart of this question is perfectly captured in that sentence: “Will I be able to get back together in this situation?”

Is my love situation impossible?

When you’re trying to reunite with someone or dealing with unrequited love, and you can’t figure out what he’s thinking or he suddenly stops responding, your ego loves to whisper, “Maybe he just doesn’t like me after all.”

But if you want to manifest love through your subconscious mind, it’s simple: “Whatever you believe, that’s what becomes real.”

Just decide what you want. Once you decide, you become the person who makes that decision reality. That’s it.

His current situation has absolutely nothing to do with it.

I know some of you might be thinking things like:

– But when we broke up, he said he never wanted to see me again.
– He told me he doesn’t believe in getting back together with exes.

– Maybe he thinks badly of me now because we used to fight so much.

– He looks so happy with his current girlfriend in all their social media photos.

– We haven’t gotten back together after all these years, so maybe it’s just not meant to be.

And so on.

I’m sure you can think of plenty of “realistic” reasons why it won’t work out. Ignore every single one of them.

Everything that happened before, all the past drama, his previous relationships – none of that matters anymore. Stop thinking about any of it. Just focus on what you want to create and what you want to experience.

When you do that, you won’t even need to ask, “Can I get back together in this situation?”

Because the situation literally doesn’t matter.

It doesn’t matter if he has a new girlfriend. It doesn’t matter if you can’t contact him. It doesn’t matter if years have passed. None of it matters. You just need to decide now.

That question “Will I be able to get back together even with all these obstacles?” is really hiding the belief: “My love story is so complicated and hopeless, there’s probably no way this could work out.”

More than anything else, you’re the one who’s decided it might not be possible.

Focus on your vision, not your ego

I totally get why your love life feels so difficult and complicated.

You can look at your friends’ relationships objectively, but somehow your own situation feels different.

But if you want your love to manifest, all you need to do is treasure the vision of it already being real.

Just ignore that ego voice that keeps popping up and stay focused on what truly matters.

Even after you make your decision, your ego will immediately jump in with “But what if it doesn’t work out?”

It doesn’t matter that it shows up. Just ignore it and return to your vision.

And once you’ve truly decided, there’s nothing else you need to do.

So go enjoy your life every day. Pick up new hobbies, eat amazing food… embrace all the little joys that are right in front of you.

Will my ego disappear once we’re back together?

Let’s say you get back together quickly! You manifest your love! Will your ego finally shut up? Not even close.

Even when you’re in love or married, ego thoughts will always pop up.
Actually, the better things are going, the louder they get.

– He’s being so sweet to me now, but maybe he’s cheating.

– Is it okay for me to be this happy? This probably won’t last long.
– He’s smiling, but I wonder if he’s actually enjoying himself.

– He seemed off yesterday. Maybe he doesn’t like me as much anymore.

And on and on… Even when everything is perfect, your ego will work overtime precisely because everything is going so well.

If you decide to stay true to who you really are, then of course you’ll ignore this ego chatter!

 

If you can move past your ego now, you’ll definitely be able to handle whatever ego thoughts come up after you’re back together.

Starting right now, become the version of yourself who has already manifested love. Set aside your ego and start honoring your own inner knowing!