Reader Q&A #10: Do These Methods Work for Men Too?

From S

I broke up with my girlfriend six months ago and found this blog because I want to get back together. I’m a man—is it okay to use the same method? I watched the videos of people who successfully got back together, but they were all women, so it made me anxious.”

Is the method the same for men as well?

As I talk about in both videos and blogs, the law of the subconscious mind is simply “because I believe so, it will happen.”

There are no conditions like “because you’re a woman” or “if you’re a man, it won’t work.” There are no gender differences whatsoever.

However, since I get asked this question regularly—”Can it happen for men as well?”—I thought I’d address it once and for all.

Why did you think it might not work for men?

Certainly, when looking at statistics, there are indeed more female viewers, so it’s natural that there are more reunion reports from women.

If you only watch the success stories, it might seem like there are no reports from men at this point. However, there have been reports from men about their successful reunions, even though they haven’t been turned into videos.

In the videos, I have never stated anything like “it works for women but not for men” or vice versa.

Therefore, if you’ve thought, “What if it doesn’t work for men?” it might be related to having the underlying belief that your romantic desires are inherently more difficult to manifest.

This is similar to questions like, “Can it work for unrequited love?” “Does it work for long-distance relationships?” “He already has a girlfriend—is it still possible?” “I’ve fallen for a celebrity—can it work?” “I don’t even have their contact info—can it work?” These questions all share the same essence of thinking, “Because it’s unrequited, long-distance, he has a girlfriend, it’s a celebrity, or I don’t have their contact info, it must be difficult to make it work.”

So, is it difficult for my love to come true?

You may think it will be difficult for your dreams to come true, based on past events or your relationship history.

If you’ve exhausted all options and finally discovered “making your wishes come true through your subconscious” and arrived here, it’s understandable that you might feel like “it seems difficult to make my dreams come true.”

However, no matter how hard you think it will be to manifest your dreams, in your subconscious mind, the rule for making your dreams come true is simply, “Because you believe so, it will happen.”

Various situations, your past together, the people around you, the other person’s reactions—all of these are irrelevant, so please stop thinking about them for now.
And just decide: “I believe so.” Decide what you want to achieve. Become the person you want to be starting “now.” That’s all.

Just decide on the desire you want to manifest

“I keep thinking that he said he would never reconcile if we broke up when we were dating.” “My friends around me also say it’s impossible, so maybe reconciliation is difficult.” “He hasn’t replied to me, so it seems like I can’t reconcile.”

You might have various rationalizations like this running through your mind. However, all of these are external voices and ego-driven, so I recommend ignoring them.

What’s important is what you want.

Regardless of what he said or what your friends are saying, if you want to reconcile, start by deciding that you and he will become a loving couple in the future.

Don’t be swayed by external opinions, no matter what your friends say. Decide what you want first.

And then, hold onto the decision you’ve made.

The whispers that tell you it might not work out are coming from your ego. Feeling like “it might not work out” is just your ego trying to keep you small. It’s okay to feel disappointed, sad, or lonely at times, but after experiencing those emotions, return to your desire to manifest.

No matter what your current situation is, all you have to do is decide on your desire. Stop looking for reasons why it won’t work out. Once you’ve felt disappointed or sad and processed those feelings, just come back to your loving and happy self.

Regardless of your current circumstances, remember that all you need to do is decide on your desire. Stop searching for reasons why it might not work out and simply remain the version of yourself who has already fulfilled your desires!

For those who tend to overthink, I recommend this book. Maybe your brain is getting tired from overthinking?