Reader Questions #22: Can I Reconcile When I Barely Know Him?

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We met on a dating app and had such a great time together, but we broke up after just a month. I’ve only been on a handful of dates with him, so I don’t really know his likes, dislikes, or what he’s truly like as a person. But something just clicked between us – I really fell for him and desperately wanted to get back together, so I decided to work with my subconscious.

When it comes to manifesting through your subconscious, the principle is “what you believe becomes reality.” I want to decide what happens between us, but since I barely know him, I can’t tell if I’m visualizing a future with the real him or just projecting my ideal onto him. I’m scared of what might happen if he turns out to be completely different from what I imagine.

Maybe instead of visualizing him specifically, I should focus on being in love with my ideal partner? But I still really want him back.

Can you reconcile with someone you barely know?

When you’ve been with someone for two or three years, you usually have a pretty good sense of their preferences, personality, and quirks.

But when you’re not already friends – especially when you meet through dating apps – and you’ve only had a few dates, you might know surprisingly little about them as a person.

Yet sometimes, something just clicks and you think “This is the one!” It happens more often than you’d think.

If you find yourself thinking, “I barely know him, but I’m certain he’s the one!” then I absolutely believe you can reunite. Love doesn’t care about timelines or how long you’ve known each other!

When you’re manifesting love through your subconscious mind, it all comes down to “believe it will happen, and it will.”

All you need to do is decide what you want to create. It doesn’t matter if you have no mutual friends, if your only connection was through an app, or if distance keeps you apart.

Simply decide what you want to build with him.

What if he’s different from what I imagine?

When you’re manifesting through your subconscious, there’s only one rule: “What you believe becomes your reality.”

Even if you met someone on an app and broke up after a month, if you decide you’ll reunite and love each other, that’s exactly what will unfold.

And A has already decided she wants to be with him!

But since they were just getting to know each other and she doesn’t know him well, she worries: “What if who I think he is and who he really is are totally different?” Here’s the thing about subconscious manifestation: “what you believe becomes reality.”

It doesn’t matter whether your mental image of him matches who he “really” is.

 

Since you don’t know him well anyway, there’s no way to be certain if your image aligns with reality.

So why not use this to your advantage? Set aside worries about the “real” him for now. Instead, imagine what kind of dates you’d love to have with him, what kind of life you’d want to build together – based entirely on what makes you happy.

Now, some thoughtful people who are used to considering others’ feelings might worry: “If I decide everything in my head, aren’t I trying to control him?” A seemed concerned about this too.

But here’s the truth: it’s completely fine.

Because all you’re doing is making decisions in your own mind! (laughs)

Your desired outcome is waiting for you

Whether you know him well or barely at all doesn’t matter – you just need to decide what you want to create. Simply choose what your heart truly desires.

Only you can know if you want to reunite with him or find love with someone new, so trust your inner voice.

 

Once you’ve made your decision, it’s as good as done. From there, I hope you’ll enjoy doing what you need to do, want to do, love to do – all the things that bring you joy, savoring each day’s happiness.

I know doubts and fears will pop up along the way, but just keep brushing them aside, simply ignore them, and bask in the feeling that your wishes are already coming true!

With love, Iruru