What Kind of Me Am I Now?

“I’ve been crushing on this guy at work for about three years now, but I just can’t seem to win him over.”

I got this message from a woman recently.
Three years?

When you hear “three years,” it sounds like forever…
I totally get it. I once had feelings for someone that lasted way too long. And even after I thought I’d moved on, I kept holding onto those feelings for years longer than I should have.

I also know that advice like “just forget about him and find someone new” feels completely useless when you’re in the thick of it.

Her story goes on.

I can feel her pain.
You can sense how much she’s hurting.

So what advice did I give her?

What kind of me am I being right now?

Today, I want to share this story with you.

If you’re stuck in unrequited love right now, or if you feel trapped no matter which way you turn, please keep reading.
You don’t have to give up!

Your dreams are coming true every single day, in every moment!

What you believe becomes your reality.

Have you heard this before?

Here’s another way to think about it: “Whatever you believe about yourself becomes true in your life.”

Every day we wake up, go about our business, head to school or work (well, most of us do)… We experience this reality unfolding right in front of us. It feels real and immediate, doesn’t it?

But here’s the thing.

I go to school or work because I believe I have to.
I do my job because I want to do it.
On my way home, I decide to stop at the store for something delicious because that’s what I feel like doing.

Even the smallest daily choices follow this pattern: “I believe this, so I act accordingly.”

Your thoughts come first.
Reality follows.

Through my work, I’ve met countless successful business leaders, psychologists, spiritual teachers, and counselors. Every single one of them understands that “thoughts come first.” They’ve all mastered the art of turning their thoughts into reality – even if they started doing it without realizing it.

Your thoughts come first.
Reality follows.

There are no exceptions to this rule.

However,

Reality comes first.
Thoughts follow.

I think many people have it backwards.
Like this:

Reality comes first. (I bought coffee)
Thoughts follow. (It tastes good)

But when we truly understand “what you believe becomes reality,” here’s what’s actually happening:

Thoughts come first. (I want coffee)
Reality follows. (I buy coffee)

So what about that thought “it tastes good”? Here’s how it really works:

You might think that “it tastes good” feeling is the most important part!
But according to the law, it’s all about “because I believe this (I want coffee), this happens (I buy and drink coffee).” The “delicious” or “awful” feelings that come after drinking are just reactions.
In terms of the universal law, here’s what matters:

We experience all kinds of emotions daily – “delicious,” “happy,” “annoying” – but these are all just reactions. According to this law, they’re not the driving force.

(According to the law, anyway. You should absolutely feel your emotions fully – that’s the beautiful part of being human!)

“What you believe becomes reality” is the same as “dreams come true”!
When you hear “dreams come true,” you probably think of it as something magical and rare.
But if you understand “what you believe becomes reality” as a law that operates 24/7 as long as you’re alive, then it means “your dreams are manifesting constantly.”

Simply shift from “I’m not good enough” to “I’m amazing”!

Let’s return to our woman who’s been stuck in unrequited love for years without any progress.

If we apply “what you believe becomes reality” to her situation, here’s what’s happening:

“It’s hard to get his attention” → “You believe it’s hard to get his attention, so that’s exactly what happens.”
“I’m always the one reaching out” → “You believe you’re always the one reaching out, so that’s your reality.”
“It’s impossible to move from friends to lovers” → “You believe it’s impossible, so that becomes true for you.”
“Sometimes I feel hopeless” → “You expect to feel hopeless sometimes, so you do.”
“But I can’t give up” → “You believe you can’t give up, so the reality of ‘being unable to give up’ continues.”

The world really is this simple!

In relationships, we think the other person’s thoughts, words, and actions control everything – “what they think about me,” “their situation,” “the distance between us.” But that’s not how it works.

It’s simply what you believe about yourself.

An even simpler way to put it: “This is who you think you are.”

“I can’t get his attention” → I’m someone who goes unnoticed
“I’m always the one reaching out” → I’m someone who never gets called
“It’s hard to move from friends to lovers” → I’m someone who can’t easily become a romantic partner
“Sometimes I feel hopeless” → I’m someone who gives up easily
“But I can’t give up” → I’m someone who stays stuck

This is how she’s defined herself.
Since the law is “what you believe becomes reality,” if she keeps thinking this way, she’ll likely remain “someone who can’t find love because she doesn’t believe she’s loveable.”

“I’m an incredible partner and I’m having the best time” → Change your story right now and you’re done

So what should we do?

The answer is beautifully simple.
Just change your story about yourself.
How about something like this?

“I’m an incredible partner and I’m having the best time.”

Yes! It’s that light and beautiful!
Anything is possible.

Please try creating “the you that you want to be”!

Do you think it can’t be that simple?
It absolutely can be.

Because you’ve now recognized “the you that you’re not.”
Once you see that clearly, your job is done.
Now you just get to become who you want to be.

Even if you’re thinking, “No way, I’ve been stuck like this for so long – it can’t change that easily!”
I’d love for you to consider, even for just a moment, “Maybe it really can change easily.”

Because it truly does!

“What you believe becomes reality” is an absolute law.
No matter who you are or what your situation is, if you believe it, it will manifest 100% of the time.
It’s only natural that it will come true.
Let’s put it into practice!

♡Meguru♡