【031】After Three Years of Unrequited Love and Three Rejections, She Attracted a Partner with Marriage Potential—Here’s How Her Mindset Shifted

When romance isn’t going well, most people find themselves thinking, “How can I make him notice me?” But today’s success story from Y showcases a completely different approach to achieving love—and it worked beautifully.

Y experienced three rejections from a man she’d had a crush on for three years, and the final blow was being left on read. Yet immediately after, she met a wonderful man with marriage potential and began dating him.

So what exactly happened in Y’s life?

Convinced They’d End Up Together, Only to Be Ghosted

Y is a woman in her late twenties working in a creative field. She fell head over heels for a man she met through an app, exchanged daily messages for two months, and went on weekly dates with him.

Convinced that they were destined to be together, she confessed her feelings—only to be rejected and ghosted.

Y describes her emotional state at the time as “falling into darkness with no way out.” Since they’d met through an app with no mutual friends, she had no way to change the situation or even know where to start.

The Turning Point: When She Decided to Transform Her Life

However, this painful experience became the catalyst for Y’s life transformation. Determined to turn her life around precisely because things were so difficult, Y immersed herself in books by Hohoko Asami and Ichinin Saito, sometimes crying as she spoke her desired self into existence.

Through this process, she gained crucial insights:

• Due to her family environment since childhood, she was afraid of being disliked and couldn’t voice her own opinions
• Family troubles had wounded her heart

Y also sought psychotherapy and counseling, saying, “I just kept releasing and releasing all the painful and sad things from my childhood.”

“Even though I tried to practice self-love, I struggled to truly accept it. In my case, I first needed to release the emotional toxins.”

Prioritizing Her Own Happiness Over Romance

Through this emotional release, Y’s mindset shifted dramatically.

“I decided to focus on making myself happy first, before romance. Regarding family issues, I also had the courage to distance myself from people who were hurting me.”

This decision to “make myself happy” became the key to Y’s romantic success.

The Unexpected Liberation of the Third Confession

To completely sever her attachment to her unrequited love, Y sent a third confession (a reverse proposal) via LINE. The result: she was left on read.

But Y didn’t experience despair.

“I felt an overwhelming sense of liberation—far more than I’d expected. There was no pain or sadness at all. By finally expressing myself, my feelings were cleansed, and all my attachment instantly dissolved.”

It was at this exact moment that she met her current partner through work.

Seeing Even Drama as an Opportunity for Growth

Her new relationship progressed smoothly until the fifth date, when an incident occurred. His ex-girlfriend used a spare key to enter his apartment.

A confrontation erupted, and Y was verbally attacked by the ex, leaving her in tears. It was a complete crisis.

But Y’s response was different.

“I told myself, ‘Ignore this reality,’ and decided in my heart that this was a big opportunity the universe gave me—it would absolutely turn into something positive.”

This shift in perspective changed everything. Y ended up encouraging the discouraged man, which caused him to suddenly trust her deeply and open his heart. “That’s when he decided we should date with marriage as our goal.”

How to Handle When Ego (Negative Thoughts) Emerges

Y also shared how she deals with ego and negative thinking:

1. First, acknowledge the anxiety and release those toxic emotions
2. Tell yourself, “Problems only become problems when we make them problems. Let it go.”

And most importantly, “I think back to my partner and fill my heart with love and affection. Sometimes I even tell myself: ‘I’m the luckiest, most beloved woman in the world, and I’m happy.'”

The Realization: I Was the One Making My Life Difficult

The most striking moment in Y’s story came with these words:

“Realizing that I was the one making my life difficult was a huge turning point.”

She continues: “Even people in painful situations can absolutely become happy. Or maybe… we’re all actually happy already—we just aren’t looking at it that way.”

Conclusion: Romantic Success Begins with Making Yourself Happy

What Y’s success story teaches us is the true nature of love. It’s not about being loved by someone else—it’s about making yourself happy first.

When you stop fixating on that special person and instead focus on “making yourself happy,” your reality transforms instantly. Y’s experience proves this beautifully.

Starting right now, from this very moment, make “making yourself happy” your top priority. Amazing changes are sure to follow.

For more details about Y’s incredible journey, please watch the full video: